My DS was 3 in July. Has been potty trained for a year and has had no real issues.

He has just gone up to the last room in nursery and I suddenly wondered how many of his peers can wipe their own bums. I will ask but wondered what mumsnetters experience was?

Think i got my ds to wipe themselves before they went to nursery, but with supervision. Those 'kando' wipes are great for them.
tho tbh, my younger ds is 6 and I still sometimes have to check he's done it properly.

My DS1 has just turned 5 and is just about able to do it. He still gets me to check. He has been at school since January.

My DS is 5.6, finished his first year at school, and refuses to even attempt to wipe his own bum <sob>, says he won;'t do it till he's a grown up and gets hysterical if I suggest he does it himself.

TBH it really grates at times, especially as he is so independant in other ways. He just holds it in at school or if he's away from me, and I absolutely hate it when I hear "mmmuuuuuuuuuuummm I'm finnnnnished" <wails>

DS 2 is 5 and can do it, but is azy and will sometimes sit on th stoilet for an hour until I give in ad do it for him.
But the kandoos are good - or even cheaper own brand oones.

i am just teachuing dd (just 3) in preparation for starting school nursery in September. DS has been confidently bum wiping since he was 3 - his cm told him to "get right in"! with the tissue. at home we use poo wipes, ds has just refused to use them as too babyish!

dd - 5.2 also completely refuses to even have a go. Says she doesn't know where the poo is. I don't think she goes at school, prefers to save the pleasure for home and me!

DS1 - 3 would do it himself and not really care if he missed or not!

Other than 'get right in' what are the other top tips of wiping then?

DD has wiped her own bum since she was 3.5 and only really calls me in if she says she cant get it clean.
I do have a friend with a boy the same age though and she wipes his bum for him as he cant do it.

Just depends I guess, You could try getting him to do it and see what she says.

ds (who hates doing anything for himself if he can convince someone else to do it) does a great job wiping after reading advice (for someone else) on here. We make a game of how many wipes it will take, so I will say I think it is a 3 wipe poo and he will say nope it is 5 and promptly wipe and check, wipe and check and see who had the best guess before his bottom is clean! It is one of the few golden things in life that actually worked for ds (thank you to unknown mner who first suggested it) He is 3.11

age 5 here can do a good job