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Mumsnet Discussions: Behaviour / development : Guilt over moving previously co-sleeping child into own room (5 messages)
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Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By haditfortheday on Mon 12-May-08 12:11:08
This morning I have moved my DD cot into her own room. She is 8 months old. I feel so guilty. We had been co-sleeping,then due to some medication I have been taking put her in a cot in our room( as per safe co sleeping advice).Over the last month though I have had so little sleep as she as taken to grunting and groaning then squealing all through the night. My health has been getting worse as I am getting so tiered. My DH is away most nights so cant help out more.
Do you think she is too young? Are there any other options I could have tried. Just feeling a little guilty and maybe hasty through feeling ill. sad
She is still breastfeeding once during the night but DH tinks this is because I feed her out of habit and she may not need this.
Sorry for the ramble!
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By mmelody on Mon 12-May-08 12:18:33
I know just how you feel.. I moved DS 10 months into own room and cot 2 nights ago after co-sleeping.. We needed to as he just wakes so frequently to BF that I am mindless with tiredness.. I really miss him though and he just looks all little in his own room.

She is not too young and she will be fine.. I guess it just takes a little getting used to..
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By derah on Mon 12-May-08 12:22:13
Try not to feel guilty. Once she's asleep I don't think she'll even notice she's not in the same room, and you'll be a much happier mummy once you've caught up on some sleep, so it's better for both of you.

My DD1 moved into her own room at 4 months and was perfectly happy there.

Also, try not feeding her during the night (do you wake her for this feed?) and she'll soon let you know if she still wants it or not. With DD1 I started to give her a dummy when she woke in the night, to see if she was really hungry or just needed a comfort suck. If the dummy settled her, she just wanted comfort. If she kept crying, she was genuinely hungry and I would feed her. She was soon sleeping through very happily.

8 months is certainly not too young for a baby to be in their own room. Health guidelines say babies only need to sleep in their parents' room for 6 months.

Good luck!! Please don't feel guilty as this really is the best move for both of you.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By Elasticwoman on Mon 12-May-08 13:28:35
Co-sleeping is a convenient way of maximising sleep when a baby is waking up many times a night. Your baby is not doing that and therefore doesn't need to co-sleep any more. I don't see what you have to feel guilty about. I moved my dc out when they became 5 - 6 months old and it never occurred to me to feel guilty about it.

Personally I don't recommend a dummy for the sake of one interruption per night, as you will only have to wean off the dummy some time in the future. Also at this stage she may not accept a dummy, or wake you just because the dummy has fallen out.

I think you've made a good move putting dd in her own room. She will have to make more effort to get you to feed her in the night now, so it won't be so much out of habit.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By haditfortheday on Mon 12-May-08 13:35:43
Thanks for support. We will cross fingers and hope things get better & not feel guilty.
Bonus will be I can watch TV in bed again!


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