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Mumsnet Discussions: Behaviour / development : Any tips on how to teach a 1yr old to be GENTLE?! (6 messages)
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Jacksmybaby on Fri 09-May-08 14:03:33
DS 15 months. A stereotypical little boy, loves to play rough, climb, pull and poke, etc. DH and me always covered in scratches and bruises (the other week he shoved his finger up DH's nose so hard DH's nose squirted blood all over the duvet cover! Niiicce.) He's not being aggressive or naughty but he does need to learn to be a bit more gentle! So far my tactic is to keep repeating "gently!" at him, sometimes while either stroking/patting him gently with my hand to show him what I mean or taking his hand and stoking/patting gently against me/someone else. But this message is not getting through at all! Any other ideas?
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By vampbaby on Fri 09-May-08 20:11:01
hmm maybe introduce pets.. or go to pet farm animals place and show him you need to be very gentle with him and show him how to pat. Or plant works as well.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By notnowbernard on Fri 09-May-08 20:12:54
keep doing what you are doing. If he's still being 'rough' at 18m maybe re-think the strategy (but only by a little!)

Sounds v normal, though smile
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By JohnsonsIsBest on Fri 09-May-08 20:14:24
we've found its just a lot of repetition nad always showing DS the action of being gentle whether it is with our cats or DH's nose!!!
incidentally he rarely goes to work scratch free.
remember your DS is just exploring what is acceptable and what isn't and it's a long hard learning process. the message takes a LONG time to get through!!
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By mezzer on Fri 09-May-08 20:17:09
Can you try to get him to show you "gentle" -- aka, stroke his hand gently and then ask him to show you gentle hands and hold out your hand.

If you keep repeating things, he will get it eventually. Sounds like he's got a lot of spunk smile. Dd has given me a bloody nose a few times too.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Jacksmybaby on Sat 10-May-08 13:20:56
Thank u for replies, good to know we are not the only ones with constant minor injuries grin


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