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So how much time IS good for sex in your opinion - 45 mins (or less or more)?

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By Tue 06-Jan-09 17:30:58 Add message | Report | Contact poster

Reading the thread about lack of libido I was interested to see that someone said that 45 mins foreplay was normal for them. I always feel guilty if DP spends too much time trying to get me going. But is this normal...I do think that women take a long time to warm up properly. How much time does your DP/DH spend on foreplay?

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 07-Jan-09 08:13:11

15 mins usually, start to finish, and we've both usually had an orgasm so i'm not bothered about the length of time involved. although sometimes if i'm done ages before him i start doing my pelvic floor exercises to get him finished aswell grin

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 06-Jan-09 23:28:02

oh my god how randy are us mners today? Ive even tried to mount my sleeping dp on couch tonight, with no luck i'm afraid!!

Good sex for us is about 25 mins tops? from start to finish! works for us and i'm v. happy with results!!!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 06-Jan-09 23:23:10

Seriously, 45 minutes is about our minimum! Foreplay alone can take longer and then the 'in and out' bit can be almost as long again! No soreness generally due to use of lubes and trust me, it doesn't get boring. TBH, often I feel disappointed when it's over because DH is SOOOOO good at what he does. And he doesn't care how long it takes for me to get there, he is more than happy to oblige! I would say our average from start to finish is about 90 minutes! But we don't have toddlers to consider, our teenagers are more than happy to leave us alone when we are 'at it' whether at night, or in the morning, or indeed any other time of day. After all, parents of teenagers don't do that sort of thing do they! (their opinion is that they themselves were actually immaculate conceptions of course!) grin

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 06-Jan-09 23:01:10

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=relationships&threadid=468179-can-we-have-a-thread-about-ways-in-which- your#9457574

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 06-Jan-09 22:59:49

does anyone remember the "jack russelling" thread? that is what popped in my head reading all this - you lot have made me cry with laughter.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 06-Jan-09 22:53:11

Half an hour, tops, including foreplay. I have things to do!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 06-Jan-09 22:36:56

45 mins on the in and out bit! shock

no thanks to be honest 45 mins on the whole thing is probably the max I would want - I have a short attention span and my mind starts to wander after a while. blush

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 06-Jan-09 22:34:01

45 minutes on teh in and out bit? I'd be bored senseless!!

We vary, sometimes it can be no foreplay, done in ten minutes (or even less) quickie. Other times the foreplay can go on and on and on and on - i take AGES to cum, more so lately because of medication im on and i usually have to "lend a hand".

But how long is good? I like it when it takes about an hour with foreplay

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 06-Jan-09 22:31:51

45 mins

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 06-Jan-09 22:30:45

foreplay is locking the conservatory door behind us

business takes the time for Peppa pig to find Daddy pig's glasses

afterplay is cup of tea

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So how much time IS good for sex in your opinion - 45 mins (or less or more)?