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The positive side of this is that you could see the second chance you gave him as also a second chance for you. Now you know what he is like it will get easier. At least you are safe in the knowledge that you tried, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Sometimes it's better the devil you know. At least you don't have to be wondering "what if?"
I would want to tell my child myself as god only knows what he will say. Obviously it's not going to be easy but at least if you do it you know that you are putting your child first whereas he clearly thinking of himself and only himself. Again, what a wanker.
soo sorryy advice, he sounds like a complete c u next tuesday. Please do not give him any more chances. He should explain to your 3 year old and not leave it to you. He sounds like such a spoilt brat who doesn't derserve you. You are worth so much more than him
I can hardly believe that he could do that to you and your children. What a wanker. You are not at all a prat at all and he is completely, completely in the wrong. You are going to be much better off without him in the long run which doesn't help now but your life has got to be better without a wanker in it.
I think you should go on the holiday with a friend/parent in his place, if one is available. You could probably do with a break. It's the least he can do for messing you about like this. I presume he's paying.
I know you are all right and I know he doesn't want the responsibility of fatherhood and he is very immature. I am feeling a lot stronger - thae first time he left was awful but I feel less hurt this time so hopefully this will continue xxxx
I'm very sorry for you, advice. That is a horrible thing for you and your son to have to go through. Not once, but twice. I wish you strength to pick yourself up. Don't berate yourself - but if you ever feel like being kind again, don't direct it his way (((hug)))
well you gave him an extra chance...and he couldnt keep it for very long. He is a selfish prick and doesnt deserve you or your beautiful son. You have got a better life ahead of you than him. let him rot in his flat without a family he is the one who will be lonely.
chin up...dont waste any more tears on the todge bag, and refocus on your life.
make some plans....what is it that YOU want to do with your life???????
life can only get better from this moment on, just dont let him worm his way back in because he can still be a father to your child if he puts the effort in x x x x
He's most definitely the stupid one. He'll realise it one day too. But by then it will be too late and you will be so happy without him you won't give him a second thought.
"Oh my god - what a cruel bastard." That sums it up perfectly.
I know you must be devastated. But use this to make yourself even stronger. Every time you even think about giving him another chance, remind yourself of this incident.
He lost his temper because the children woke up in the night!
I know it doesn't help to hear people say 'you're better off without him'. You know deep down that you are. But you have a big heart, you love him, you have a family with him, and you did a wonderful thing in giving him that chance.
He has blown it big time. He's hurt you so much. But he's also dragged an innocent child into his games. He doesn't deserve more chances. That was it.
Now is your chance to move on and find real happiness. With or without a man, you have your beautiful dc and you will get through it.
You are not a prat, He is a total arse. How could someone do that to a 3 year old, let alone his wife? Well if you needed a reason to get him out of your life forever, surely this is it. You can't stick with someone like that.
It will get better, my love. He's the one losing out. He's the one who will regret leaving his family. You will always have your darling children and <<fingers crossed>> love from someone who deserves you in the future x
You shouldn't feel stupid. He's the total idiot, and hopefully this will strengthen your resolve and help you move on. I'm really sorry xxxxxxxx I wish I was there to hand you tissues and a large brandy x
Have posted before about my seperation. Was starting to feel back in control and could see a way forward without my husband.
Last weekend my husband told me he had made a mistake in leaving and wanted to move back in. We had a nice weekend with family BBQ's etc, he told my 3.5 year old he was moving back into the home (he was really excited) and booked a family holiday for the first week in June.
On Wednesday he came round so we could spend the evening together - I cooked a meal with some nice wine and stupidly I slept with him.
Husband woke up in the middle of the night when our 3 year old came into the room and baby started crying (there was a thunderstorm) - Husband lost his temper and said he couldn't sleep and was going back to his flat.
He rang to apologise at 6am then at 9am sent me an e mail saying he had changed his mind about moving back in but still wanted to go on holiday and would stay with us this weekend.
This evening he turned up with no bag and said he had changed his mind - said his heart wasn't in it.
Called him about 20 mins ago to ask if we could talk and he said he was going out with a friend and said as far as he was concerned our marriage was over.
I feel a real idiot and am sitting here in tears. Why did I give him another chance? I was just starting to feel stronger.
