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Mumsnet Discussions: Relationships : Help me please (14 messages)
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Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By schmoopoo on Fri 16-May-08 20:25:34
DH has just had a real go at me. I am a waste of apce and a F* pain. i only work 12 hours a week and look after the house and kids etc. I just want to go
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By nickytwotimes on Fri 16-May-08 20:27:50
That's a terrible way to speak to you!
is this a common occurance?
btw, I am not an expert on this topic, but sad and shock for you.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By schmoopoo on Fri 16-May-08 20:31:22
Yes it is. Even my 3 year old ds tells me I am rubbish now. i have a solicitors appointment on Monday. I just want to run away
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By nickytwotimes on Fri 16-May-08 20:33:22
That's rotten for you.
Is there anywhere you and ds can go right now? Family, friends.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By kat2907 on Fri 16-May-08 20:33:23
You are going yes? Does he know this? I remember reading about your awful H. You might not be able to run away immediately but you are taking steps. Keep your chin up and try to ignore him/not get into arguments. xxx
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By schmoopoo on Fri 16-May-08 20:36:23
could go to my mums but they live a longway away and what about school next week
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By nickytwotimes on Fri 16-May-08 20:38:37
Would it be worth forgoing school for a short period or enrolling them near your mum?
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By schmoopoo on Fri 16-May-08 20:39:28
could do but will it look bad in the custody battle we are going to no doubt have
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By nickytwotimes on Fri 16-May-08 20:40:52
Any way you could get rid of him from the house?
i'm guessing not...
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By trulymadlydeeply on Fri 16-May-08 20:41:19
What's more important in the long run: your ds going to school, or teaching him that it's not OK to treat people as your h treats you?

Go and see your solicitor on Monday so you know how to escape this man. If you need to go to your parent's in order to break the chains, then do so, but you must get professional help so you know what you need to do and what your rights are.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By schmoopoo on Fri 16-May-08 20:42:52
He won't go it is his house !!! He says. Will wait till Monday and hope I can get away over half term. i just feel so bad about uprooting the children
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By Janni on Fri 16-May-08 20:43:03
Make sure you don't let your 3 year old get away with repeating those things - that would be terrible for him and you. Keep a diary of all abusive events and comments from your DH which will help your solicitor get a good settlement for you.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By schmoopoo on Fri 16-May-08 20:49:45
I will I just wish he would die
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By nickytwotimes on Fri 16-May-08 20:51:53
Good on you for making plans to get out.


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