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man (or sex free zone.) anyone want to join in? (until around xmas I think will be good for me!)
i'm not gonna date, i'm not going to talk to anyone, i'm going to be me, go out with my girlfriends, and wait for the one person who really shines, no more settling, or thinking I need a man around to complete my life!
I am not looking for a boyfriend, am enjoying going out with my girlfriends, having dinners and cocktails and all in all appreciating what I have got. Not falling for second best men and projecting who I think they are onto them.
But, am afraid I can't do the celibacy thing, so my lover stays in the picture to stop me going mad.
So, am I allowed to join in, or am I out as I'm not properly obeying the rules?
<puffs up the comfy cushions & passes around the nuts>
beats sitting in here alone anyhow! lol. i've never been able to do the whole sex buddy thing - maybe that's where I go wrong? get too emotionally involved me!
for me i'm waiting for any man who's like the guy from bones, in looks, job character - the whole package! I will stay strong I won't settle! lol.
(But I do have my fingers crossed behind my back just in case I meet a gorgeous bloke on a night out and fancy a quickie sometime! - is that allowed?!!)
Definitely no dating or relationships though! And totally agree - I also need to stop thinking I need a man around to complete my life. Far from it!
my Xmil said today (after I told her am no longer settling for 2nd best, n am gonna wait for the fairytale so she says to me.....)
'i've been married 15 years n am still waiting, marriage needs to be worked at men want to feel needed'
well yes they maywell do, but I want to be dated, I want to be courted and to feel special, so until someone worthy comes along I'm on a vow of celibacy!
i'm not being celibate, but i am not interested in any kind of proper relationship right now, i just have a couple of casual arrangements going on with two guys i know quite well, for when it suits
relationships and dating = too much effort right now, i really cant be arsed
lol. hello lou! how are you! have given up on pof now! most definatly! i'm still talking to 2 men from xmas time, who will be ok to escort me to the pics, or to have a coffee with but no funny business! lol.
(can I be nosey and ask what you mean by casual arrangements?)
i am still on pof , i just dont go looking that much now
by casual arrangements i mean i mean sex when it suits me and them
one of them is a friend who lives about 5 mins drive from me, and the other is actually someone i met on pof about a year ago, and we became friends before anything else
they both know what the rules are and are happy to go along with it
there are times i meet up and it is just for a drink and a chat, no sex involved, so we still retain the friendship side
I threw him out of my bed on 1 May 2006. We had continued to share a bed after I'd told him it was over because basically the house was too small for us to sleep separately. But after he grabbed a quickie from the rear when I was asleep one night, I decided this must stop. He sleeps in a teeny little bed in DS4's room now.
Ach, it wasn't uncomfortable, it was just a liberty. I'm sure if I'd told him to sod off he'd have stopped. As it was I decided that he might as well finish as this was going to be the last time, ever.
Around the time the decree nisi came through he said he would give me a proper one for old time's sake if I liked, with foreplay and everything. I said were he the last man on earth, wearing a paper bag over his head, and I had eaten nothing but aphrodisiacs for a year, there is no way on earth that I would ever be in the least bit tempted. Hope that was unsubtle enough for him.
lol. 
