No, he's not the same as when I first met him or when we got married. But that was over 30 years ago now so I would be worried if he hadn't changed in that time. I know I have. We have grown up together and have learnt about ourselves and each other together. He looks just as good now, in fact, I think he looks better. And he is just as sexy and gorgeous as ever and makes sure I get the full benefit of his gorgeous bod frequently!

I don't know about mine, I thought I knew him but when we split up I saw a different person, we are back together working things out (he is living away whilst we do counselling) I think one thing i have noticed and looking back, is that he is quite imature at times (funny how you don't notice somethings). I so want to tell him that he needs to do some serious growing up tho without it heading straight down the argument path, any ideas??

interesting question.

i would say mine is still the fun-loving kind and thoughtful guy i married. bit more grown-up (even though he was already 27 when we met) which is a good thing. where he has changed it's generally been improvements, except with housework. he's still quite shy and awkward sometimes even with me. we've been through a lot together and sometimes he seems a bit care-worn but then i think so am i. i would say if we have changed, and we probably have, we've changed pretty much together

Mine is quieter - if that is at all possible

Definately hes grown up a bit, he still is just as much fun though. Maybe a bit less refined in the house, than when we first got together, but still really lovely manners. Overall improved, I'd say.

Yes! I don't want to see ball scratching either. Quite agree Joash.

Mine looks and acts a lot younger than he did when we first met just over 27 years ago. His parents were quite old when they had him and although he was only 20 when we met - he acted about 90 and a lot of his attitudes and opionions were 'old'. He wore gigantic Y-fronts FFS (who the hell puts buys a 20yr old y-fronts) and had glasses and some clothes, identical to his dad - OOOPPS. His mummy used to do absolutely everything for him, including cutting his bloody toenails.

He wouldn't dream of 'sitting scratching his balls'. He has definately improved in the sex department - he was a virgin when we met and has now been taught very well .

that was actually really shitty of me and not fair - he is really superb 90 % of the tmie and really thoughtful

yes, pretty much

he says sorry more often though

Yes i would say mine has improved too.

I think a certain amount of compromise is needed to make a good marriage last.
If he wants to sit on the sofa scratching his balls in his spare time you have to let it go. It's not a terrible thing to do.

Yes.

Of the wo variety

hunker are you a man then?

My MIL says my dh has been the same since he was about 7 (he's 35 now), so no, he hasn't changed.

But I can relate to the OP - I tried to explain to dh recently the difference between feeling relaxed in your own home with your wife, and the things I really don't need to see!

With Dh when we met the glass was always half full know its always half empty

Kids and responsibility now I suppose

No, but I'm not the same man he married either, so that's fair enough. If I was and he wasn't, we'd be divorced [cryptic] [hamster]

God no. He used to be soooo laid back.. now he's as stressy as me and it shows. We've both had counselling; he's had more though. Don't know whether is the unprecidented situation that's done that to him or just me!

mmm, interesting question. No he's not the same, but that's not a bad thing.

I'm not the same, and that's not a bad thing either

(we've been married nearly 14 years btw so a fair while in which to change!)

Actually not strictly true....after a few years together, he learned how to use a toilet brush.

DH was a boy and has become a pretty fine husband and father, certainly with no more faults than I have as a wife and mother!

Mine has improved, because he knows who he is in life now and is happy with it . As for finesse, he didn't come with any frills and he doesn't have any now, either.

No. He was a kid, now he's a grown up.

Thank goodness

XH has always been the same, just got a little lazier along the way. ut yes always the same the little things dropped a bit - he's starting to pick them up again now thou.

Yes.

Can't be arsed with a name change, so 'scuse me, here:

Xh used to sit around naked, and would crawl to the TV to turn it over, dragging his dangly dog's bllcks behind him. I just used to sit there and think,
"that would never have happened in Jane Austen's day".

Don't know about normal but certainly seems sad.

My DH isn't the man I married, he was a boy then, now he's a dad to my kids. His hair is starting to go grey, he's put on some weight and he's got taller

His attitudes to many many things have matured and he's more open minded and happy to discuss things rather than assert his point of view. He listens now. O and he's got much better in bed

Not the same man at all

much much better than I could ever have hoped for

Went out a few nights ago with the girls and the converstation came up about husbands/partners.

On how they have changed some beyond belief.(they look like and sound like the man they married but that is far as it goes)

This was one example

That years ago they would never have sat on the sofa scratching their balls in front of you.
They were more thoughtfull then than now

One of my friends said that if she could turn back time she would never of married him .She loves him but does`nt like him

Is this normal ???