to discuss divorce on Monday what will happen

My XH & I didn't have a house or any assets to fight over, so it was relatively simple. Obviously I had to give her the grounds for wanting a divorce, which she had typed up later in the week and posted so I could read, agree (no, actually, I changed some details and she re-draughted them), then I signed.

She was very nice, and supportive, but it was an incredibly sad and painful experience.

I don't think I've been a lot of help, but I didn't want you to go unanswered.

It would be helpful if you could take your ID (passport or driving licence and utility bill)with you as the solicitor won't be able to open a file and start working until that's received.

If you're sure about the divorce you should also take your marriage cert as that will eventually be sent to court with the petition.

I find it really helpful if people have already typed out the following info:

Full names & addresses of parties

" dates of birth of kids

Value of matrimonial home
Estimate of mortgage outstanding
Estimate of assets, ie savings, endowment policies, ISAs, shares etc
Same for any debts, especially joint debts
Each party's income and job title.

Having said that, clients aren't usually that organised so don't worry if you don't feel up to all that.

You should feel that the solicitor quickly gets a grip on your situ, what matters most to you, where you want to be at the end of the case (ie, do you want to stay in the house/sell/buy him out etc).

The solicitor should be empathetic and give you time to cry if you need to, but also professional and make you feel confident that they know what they're doing.

If you get bad vibes from the solicitor, don't go with them and try a different one.

thank you will do that. Not what I want but feel I can't live with this controlling bully any longer. I want to get all the facts etc before he knows what i am doing