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Mumsnet Discussions: Relationships : Would it be really wrong to 'date' more than 1 man at a time? (9 messages)

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By PersonalClown on Thu 15-May-08 19:05:28

Men are like buses, I swear!!

I am currently seeing a friend. A F*ck buddy if you will but it's with the thought of if things go well with us in the 6 months before he goes to Thailand then we may become a bit more serious when he comes home.
We are great friends, get on really well, our kids get on great and the sex is fantastic!!

But I have some interest from 2 other blokes.
We have been chatting online and both have expressed an interest in meeting up in RL.
I have no intention of sleeping with either of these guys as I don't know them but having been single for years has kind of put me out of touch with what's acceptable!

Could I/ Should I 'date' these other guys while still sleep with my friend or should I stick to one guy at a time?

Life sure can confuse you at times! grin

By OverMyDeadBody on Thu 15-May-08 19:11:04

Of course date others! What's wrong with gewtting to know a few men at a time? As you said, they are like busses...

I have had more than one lover in my life before, until quite recently actually. It was just sex at the end of the day and as long as you're honest and open (and careful) then it's not wrong.

Having a f*ck buddy shouldn't stop you getting to know other men, after all one of them may turn out to be the 'one' grin

By PersonalClown on Thu 15-May-08 19:23:43

Thanks for that!
I guess I just needed to hear it from someone else.
They all know about each other so there would be no secrets.

Hell, men have been doing this sort of things for years. (wildy generalizes/stereotypes)

By Sanctuary on Thu 15-May-08 19:29:30

GO FOR IT

If your only dating you can see as many men as you like.
Just be "careful" if you know what I mean
nudge nudge wink

By Janos on Thu 15-May-08 19:30:31

Yes, you should date others. Why not?

I've been in this situation and found it a bit much for me but if you are comfortable with the idea then go for it! grin

By PersonalClown on Thu 15-May-08 19:30:37

Thanks Sanctuary. I'm always 'careful'.
I have Ds and I don't feel the urge for anymore.

By justabouthappy on Thu 15-May-08 19:33:41

Um, are you going to be honest about it?
If you are going to deceive anyone, even by omission, then no.
But if there would be no secrets, then I can't see the problem.

By PersonalClown on Thu 15-May-08 19:41:55

JAH- I have already been honest. They all know I am single but have others interested IYKWIM.

Friend/F*ck buddy is usually here when I am chatting online and the others know I am sleeping with him.

By Sanctuary on Thu 15-May-08 19:55:10

If your just dating

Do you really have to tell them about each other?
Is that A bad thing to say blush

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