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Mumsnet Discussions: Relationships : Cringe! :-( (27 messages)
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Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By RaspberrySheep on Mon 05-May-08 18:51:34
I hardly get to mix with DS's class mate's parents as I'm at work before he starts school and immediately after, so rarely get to meet them in the playground. I always try to make a really good impression if I have any contact with them as I am just about the only mum that doesn't collect her DC from school (Most of the other children have SAHMs), and am constantly paranoid that I will be seen as a bad mother because of this and because I'm a single mum. (I like to beat myself up about this as often as possible!).
Cue DS getting a Birthday party invitation from a little girl whose parents I have never met. Called just now to confirm, phone was answered by 'little girl', so I put on a voice about 10 octaves higher than my own. 'Oh Hello, is your mummy or daddy home?' I asked in my most patronising child friendly voice. 'Yes, I am Mummy' came the reply. blush blush blush
I am mortified, but couldn't think of anything to say that would improve the situation on the spot, so just mumbled an apology and said it was a bad line.
What a terrible start to a possible friendship - she was a really lovely lady too! sad blush
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By NurkMagiggy on Mon 05-May-08 18:54:21
I bet she is a MNer grin

We'll prob get a thread on chat saying 'Help, I keep being mistaken for my five year old on the phone'!

Don't worry. We've all done it...
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By alittleone2 on Mon 05-May-08 18:57:34
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Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By LittleWonder on Mon 05-May-08 18:57:45
PMSL - Oh I do that sort of thing all the time - don't worry - she must be used to it! I once had a phone conversation with a client's daughter - I said "Can you tell Mummy..." in this patronising-unless-you-are-5 voice. ~I congratulated her on taking the message and later found out she was 18 blush
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By jellyforbrains on Mon 05-May-08 18:58:31
This happened to me once - someone phoned for DH and asked me if my daddy was in!!! To be fair to me, I had just run down the stairs and had a really out of breath, high pitched voice on. Still, I was v blush
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By noscat on Mon 05-May-08 18:59:05
Me too - i wouldn't let my teenaged daughter stay over for a sleepover cos i was convinced that the "mother" was actually one of her friends and thought she was pulling a fast one. Huge embarrassment when I met the woman (who is lovely by the way) and realised that she genuinely does have the voice of a 10 year old!
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By piratecat on Mon 05-May-08 19:00:47
pmsl, well sort of because I have done this, and have had this too.

Hopefully it will be something you can look back on a nd laugh at with the new mum friend.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By jivegirl on Mon 05-May-08 19:08:14
Along the same lines - I have phoned to speak to my (female) friend and when 'she' answered I said 'Hi Jane', only for the 'her' to reply 'it's not Jane, it's John' (i.e. her husband!!)

I've done that twice now.. she tells me he gets it all the time grin
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By petitmaman on Mon 05-May-08 19:15:20
i really wouldn't worry about it. when you see her at the party just say"oh, i am so sorry about the other day, i was just being a bit thick" she will probably laugh and it will be an ice breaker. ( not saying you were being a bit thick btw)
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By RaspberrySheep on Mon 05-May-08 19:21:44
Hee hee! Thank you, I'm feeling much better now I know I am not on my own with this! Even had a little chuckle about it, counting my blessings that at least I didn't mistake her for her Daddy! smile
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Alexa808 on Tue 06-May-08 00:55:03
Nice one jivegirl.

Raspberry, I'd go along with petitmaman's advice and would make a joke about your behaviour the other day a la: I'm not really good on the phone, sorry.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By littlewoman on Tue 06-May-08 07:22:51
She should be grateful she sounds so young, it's a sort of compliment really. Keep telling yourself that!
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Fullmoonfiend on Tue 06-May-08 07:28:48
people sometimes istake my voice for my 10-year-old's son's voice blush
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By ElectraBunny on Tue 06-May-08 07:35:01
Oh poor you, don't be too hard on yourself though. I have deffo done this kind of thing grin

Actually this happened to me once when I was on the phone - the other person said "Are you sure you are over 18?" lol
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By theAfkaUrbanDryad on Tue 06-May-08 07:38:00
i've answered the door (with ds on my hip) to salesmen who've asked "Is your mum or dad around?"

hmm
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By piratecat on Tue 06-May-08 07:48:50
lmao, urban and jive, classic!!

its a bit like when you take your baby down the high street too , dressed all in pink and some old dea says, 'aw isn't he a darling'

hmm
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By PussinWellies on Tue 06-May-08 10:32:17
Oh god, I can cap that...
Charming young Polish neighbour calls us in to see her new baby. Door is opened by unknown smiling grey-haired woman.
Hello, we say cheerily, you must be Jana's mother -- nice to meet you.

Nope, it's her sister-in-law. Who now presumably hates us for ever.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By wildhorses on Tue 06-May-08 10:39:14
been there got the t-shirt

Stop beating yourself up about been seen as a bad mum cos you work thats rubbish

I am a SAHM and at times I envy mums like yougrin

As for the voice of a "5 year old" mum she probarly won`t give it a second thought
JUST BE YOURSELFwink
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By itsahardknocklife on Tue 06-May-08 10:41:25
Ha ha, as I teacher, phone calls home are part of the job. Countless times I have called, and when a deep voice answers, I have said 'is that Mr so-and-so', only to be told 'No, it's Mrs so-and-so'. Oooops, perhaps they ought to cut down on the smoking!
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By wildhorses on Tue 06-May-08 10:44:10
Ever asked someone when their baby is due and it turns out they are NOT pregnant?

No neither have Iblush
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Kewcumber on Tue 06-May-08 10:47:07
it could have been worse.

My mum rang my sister and said to my (10 yr old) nephew when he answered the phone "Can I speak to mummy please. She then heard my (45 yr old) brother-in-law saying to my sister in a very resigned voice "It's your mother"
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By Winetimeisfinetime on Tue 06-May-08 11:14:52
When my brother was a police officer he used to phone my sil at set times, when he was on a break. So when the phone went at one of these set times she answered it in a childish voice, saying " Hello, fluffy bunny here " only to find that it was the Chief Constable on the line not my db. He asked if her mummy was there so she had to go away and then come back with her'normal' voice.

We never did find out if he was aware that they didn't have any dc and thus must have known it was sil all along !
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By StandingAtTheBackLookingStupid on Wed 07-May-08 09:13:57
I love this thread !
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By WilyWombat on Wed 07-May-08 09:39:23
I really wouldnt worry about it, this used to happen to my Mum all the time when we were growing up - she just thought it was funny.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By WilyWombat on Wed 07-May-08 09:44:55
Oh and someone once asked me "when are your twins due" and I wasnt pregnant. She knew that someone her daugher knew was having twins and thought it was me. tbh I thought it was really funny (whilst taking a mental note to do more sit ups and stop wearing really loose clothes) she was soooo mortified.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Hassled on Wed 07-May-08 09:47:53
I have regularly been mistaken for my 20 year old DS1 on the phone blush.

And someone recently congratulated me on how polite and helpful my 6 year old DS3 had been on the phone when she'd rung recently - I worked out it was in fact my 18 year old DD she'd been speaking to, but I haven't yet told DD she's been mistaken for a 6 year old boy!
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By Needamassage on Wed 07-May-08 10:25:47
I once phoned my 70 year old neighbour and when the phone was answered said "Oh hello John"...silence...."It's his wife, Valerie here, I'll just get him".

She sounded SO like a man I was amazed!


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