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Yes TFM it's the brand new company car that decided to pack up on me! Apparently the gear box has gone!
We got in just after 11 last night. Bit tired, but other than that not too bad!
Was really brilliant to see you all. Sorry I was up and down to ds. Couldn't really join in the conversation properly. But I think you're all absolutely brilliant! Can't wait to see you again.
And big thanks again to pc for putting up with us! And for our picnic! The taxi driver must have been wondering what he did to deserve us in the car - we spent the first hour eating sandwiches, crisps and the easter egg! Then watched a dvd. Then fell asleep the rest of the way! (We did offer him some chocolate though! And ds sang him a few wiggles songs!! ) Great journey for us!!
Wish I'd have had a few glasses of wine in the day now though! What a waste drinking coke all day. Next time we need more wine!
I would fancy the holiday away but I won't be able to get the time off that soon.
But perhaps like we were talking about maybe later in the year... that sounds really good.
And I must apologise too - ds is still referring to your dd's room as 'my room' and her kitchen is 'my kitchen' he certainly made himself at home didn't he!!
typical bloke your ds, feet right under the table! seriously tho, he was an absolute pleasure and he and dd got on really well on the whole. dd was wondering where you were this morning but was adamant that you weren't taking her home with you, bless!
shame about tenerife, we'd have a great time. deffo on for a week end june/early july at my friends' van if it's available tho.
sounds good then Will go over there and join up as soon as dd has finished painting my nails and i have fed dd2 all at once , multi tasking i think they call it
Hi everyone, whilst I was reading the old thread, it ran out of space! Tracked you down though...
Thank you everyone for your lovely comments, they've helped me resign myself to my Advancing Years - I've checked my birth cert - it looks like it was written in Victorian times but the faded ink definitely says '1958' . I DO have this portrait in the attic....
Lovely photos on FB - I showed my group photo to DP and his comment was, for a group of dirty old men, you look good.
Dior, of course, really IS a hairy biker - but DP said, 'she looks like Liz Hurley!' so you see, Dior, there are two who think this, one of them a mere man - so face the fact - you are gorgeous! And thank you so much for the bracelet. It's beautiful, and I shall treasure it the more for you having made it!
DD was bemused by us all and approves of the Teabags en masse - she'll like the Chelsea comparison - I think . We thought all the MiniTeabags were so sweet and really well behaved - and PC's daughter was a terrific character - and VERY quick on her feet! It got me wondering whether a tracking device for toddlers could be developed. Baffy, your DS is a little gent -and a great dancer.
Lillybubble, your DD is gorgeous - 'the wrong shade of pink' indeed - she's going to look as stylish as you when she's older.
Yes, we must definitely go to Corams Fields when it's warmer - we'll be able to relax and definitely take some wine . I particularly like the fact that you can't get in with a child and no child is allowed to leave without an adult. The kids can feed the animals, so we used to take old carrots for the goats. It's an amazing place to find in the middle of Bloomsbury and has quite a history to it.
Glad you liked the bracelet Tanee. I wanted to give you something hand-made, but I don't know you well, so couldn't guess what colours you liked. I like turquoise though, so opted for that!
Blimey - I'm all touched now <sniff>. Thank you all for being so fab. I really AM hung up on my weight and am beating myself up over my eating at the moment, but can't seem to stop!
New tumble dryer arrived today, so I can tackle Mount Everest tonight (my washing pile ). My tumble dryer HAD to break in the worst two weeks of weather we have had this year didn't it .
I meant to say that I was really impressed with ALL the little tea-bags yesterday. They were so well-behaved and polite. I know T scared you PC, but she really was good. Like I said, ds was an escape artist at that age! I had to leg it after him quite often!
thanks dior, she is gorgeous and i am too hard on her sometimes.
first time she's ever done it and the emotions that were going thru me for the 3 mins were so strong. gave me the smallest inkling of what it must be like for parents who's kids really do go missing.
i cannot imagine how they survive it.
oh dear, another quality street just jumped out the box and out the wrapper and into my mush!
Dior dont know what you did to me but i just cant stop eating today so i will be big as a whale next time . Diet not going too well today - well there is always tomorrow.
Dior, I LOVE turquoise and it goes well with my skin tone. I'm a turquoise, burgundy and black person (you can't go wrong with burgundy and black, they hide the bumps!!)
PC, T is a little star! I lost L in C&A once, and yes, it was the worst day of my life - especially after the Jamie Bulger case which I cried over as L was a baby at the time.
Hw/dior i know you both prob thought i was talking tosh but i honestly think the pink patch was fab. Well it worked for me for the 1 week i tried it and i've ordered more and if it doesnt work before the next meet then im going to give up on dieting and live like a whale and be happy!
Altho could do with bucket of it right now to calm me down.
DD1 borrowed my spare phone sat night when she went round her friends. Her friends eldest sis decided to sneak phone into her room and along with her friend not only use 20 pound of my credit but went through my voice mails and my private texts to h and called some of my friends. Have spoken to the mum and she is as outraged as me and is going to get her dd to pay the credit back.
Now dd2 has just brought my nintendo ds down out of her pig hole room claiming that "someone" came into her room and trod on it! So thats now busted so im pretty now!
Tanee, I have seen the photo's of the meetup and not only do you not look 50, you are blooming stunning! Your dd is gorgeous too.
Looking at those photo's anyone would think you had all known each other for years. I am so pleased you had such a fab time BUT CAN YOU STOP GOING ON ABOUT IT NOW AND TALK TO TFM INSTEAD
Only Joking girls. PC, baffy was meant to eat the chocs. You have been done!!
I think you are brilliant! I am hoping that by the time I have finished with myself I will have the confidence to do just the same as you. And you never know, you might just meet up with a gorgeous, hunky, kind and sensitive single dad
sugar not surprised you're not sure what to say about all that!
I'm just sitting at the computer with ds and showing him the photos and he wants to go back to the 'party' again!
My mum just came in so I too have had to reveal a bit more.
She just thinks you're all brilliant though, especially for all the support you've given me. I do feel really humbled about that, especially after seeing you all in person. You're all amazing.
Only thing is though....
I am slightly gutted that not one of you is a man!!!
PC what did you think of the RAC guy?? He was nice! And he rang me 3 times today!He said he was calling about my car, and was going on about getting it to the dealer and what I need to do about the courtesy car... a likely story!!!
baffy, yeah i thought he was nice too. he deffo only had eyes for you tho girl! unfortunately the one who came to get the car this morning was only about 12. i thought about asking him if he had a license LOL!
TFM, if i do book that holiday it'll be mainly down to you giving me the courage to do it!
Baffy <<<TFM says in deep, gruff voice>>> you ain't met me yet love, you might be in for a bit of a surprise in the trouser department!
PC, go for it!! Please, life is short and dd is only young once, don't do what I did and spend all of her life scared to take the plunge! I have wasted so much of mine and my childrens lives (IYSWIM) Just go for it. whats the worst that can happen?
PC you need the ugly one's to practice on ready for when you meet the real deal. Youv'e got to kiss a few frogs you know just make sure you throw em back in the pond afterwards!
Go to Asda, you can get her a pack of 3 tshirts for about £3 and same with shorts. They have loads of cheap clothes but they are quite good in quality.
You will have such a fab time. I really wish I hadn't let 'everything' get in the way of doing things with my children. I am determined dd won't miss out. I am going to get back on track for her sake!!
OMG 3000 posts - what chatterboxes we are!!! Do it PC!!! It will be great and do you both the world of good! Think of the sun, this country is so depressing at the moment. Glad you got home OK Baffy - good on you for pulling the RAC man!!! The park looks brilliant Tannee - my dc would love it they are animal mad (actually sometimes they are animals!) PC - ds1 went missing for a minute or two on Sunday too - he wandered off behind the speakers in the corner to investigate, I know he's 8 and very sensible but my heart still went, till I found him. Anyway, I'm off for an early night tonight, back to work tomorrow
Hello girls, my goodness thread 4!! Had a feeling that might have happened
Dior, you really DO look like Liz Hurley!!! I couldn't quite think who you reminded me of, but that's definitely it!
Lol Tanee, dd must have thought we were all batty!! Yes I am going to have (more!) trouble with her when she gets older, I dread to think......
Baffy, get you pulling the RAC man!!! Love it! As I walked home I was thinking it was quite amazing no alcohol was consumed. THough can you imagine what we would have been like with wine involved, lol!?
PC, aw it was awful for you when T ran off, it's so, so scary how quickly it can happen. She wasn't bothered at all was she, little minx! They all do it though!!
sugar - about ds lite.... not good! Nor about the phones. Hope they make it up to you!
TFM, how's you?
GU, such a shame about your camera. Your DS was lovely, so well behaved! He was great at the RFH, tearing around, bless him!
All good here. Had a bit of a scare earlier as dd was doubled up in pain when I picked her up from nursery. Got her some milk of magnesia, she fell asleep on the way home, and, well, let's just say that I think it must have been trapped wind!! She made a v fast recovery thankfully!
Coram's Fields is a great idea. Can I recommend the book "Coram Boy" by Jamila Gavin, which gives the history of James Coram, who the area is named after. It's a kids book, but a bit like Harry Potter / His Dark Materials, it's very readable for adults too. It's fab.
Got a big night out tomorrow which I'm v excited about, the press night of one of our shows, a big musical called Jersey Boys. Got a nice frock out ready, and looking forward to letting my hair down!!
struggling tonight baby overtired and had screaming ab dabs still feeling anxious when she does though DD1 got ignored and snapped at so then developed "sore bits" didn't get to eat any dinner or have cuddle/story time with DD1 And H got hump cos I didn't answer the phone when he rang half dozen times in middle of this
Try not to be too hard on yourself - we all have days when it just seems to fall apart and we shout and ignore dcs. They are very yourng and they really dont pick up on it all and soon you will be back on top of it all (and then it will all go wrong again!!). Take some time out for you today - have a nice bath or something.
PC book that holiday and borrow some clothes for dd or find a charity shop - we have this great second hand shop for children where yuo get 50% of the money of the clothes you take. dd4 has/had practically everything from there. I found some lovey summer dresses in sainsburys too recently.
Baffy - you will have men falling at your feet all the time - make the most of it while you can.
Sugar hope you have calmed down.
My ds was telling me to be careful about meeting up with you lot - but was interested to know about you - i think he thinks its quite cool of his mum actually.
Off to the hairdressers today may try something different.
Mac, sorry to hear you had a bad evening. As HW says, it does happen. At the end of a long day everyone gets a bit frazzled. I sometimes snap at dd as I'm tucking her in after 5 minutes of "pull it down a bit" and "my legs not straight" and "my pillows not right" and "where's my monkey" and "cuddle cuddle cuddle" and "one more kiss mummy" and "don't forget to wash my cup up".
altho i never leave the room in a huff she can push me to the edge with her pre-sleep demands lol!
have made some more enquiries about the holiday. good tips on Asda and charity shops. Will check it out.
Shit, bugger, bum, etc etc. Saw G this morning, after I had dropped ds' car seat at my mum's. He was waiting for the lights to change, to cross the road and I'm sure he recognised my car. I jusr pursed my lips and resolutely looked away . He looked GOOD though and I remember why I fancied him. In this case, absence makes the heart stronger, not fonder!
TFM is back! I feel brilliant today, soooo positive and, I could even be described as feeling quite perky I think I am definately over the worst.
Onwards and Upwards we go!!
Definately give Asda a look PC, you will be amazed how much you can get for your money, Primark is good too. We have a family holiday booked for the end of July DS asked P what is going to happen now, P said he is going to drive us there and then come home. When I first heard I had a little panic attack but now I'm thinking why the heck not. If he wants to do that then it's fine by me, me and the kids will have a great time
Now that would be great! I am not holding my breath at the moment though. Once he finds out that I am all for it he will probably change his mind, in which case it will be me staying home and the Teabags will have to come here
The states! For work? Crikey, I never got sent to the States for work! Will it be as exciting as it sounds?
Dior, just picture him on the toilet having a poo, it works wonders!
PC I know how you feel, I would feel the same but, dd will be absolutely fine and she will probably have a wail of a time with grandma and grandad! Meanwhile, you should take every opportunity to spend time with adults that come your way. Chances like this don't pop up that often. And you know, these things happen for a reason, maybe, just maybe ..... you may meet a Prince instead of a frog!
The holiday is a caravan holiday in Weymouth PC. I am really hoping that he didn't just say that to ds in hope it would get back to me and cause a reaction, I really hope he meant it. I would love to go on holiday without him. I know dd won't want to go on holiday without me though, I'm trying not to think about what I will do if he decides he is going. I really have no desire to share a holiday with him.
tfm, she will have a ball and will barely miss me you are so right! i'll take my laptop so we can webcam. i would only leave her with my parents even tho i think H would probably come thru if needed. My CM is registered over night too but altho I think my CM is great she's a bit stricter than me and I think dd would be quite confused by staying with her.
of course, i could be totally over protective and irrational on this LOL! either way tho, i can be 100% certain that she will be loved and cared for by her GPs exactly as she would be at home. better prob as they don't get huffy with her as much as me lol!
Weymouth eh? Just a hop skip n a jump for the Southern Contingent, very very do-able for our South-West Teabags too.
Strategies for ensuring P cannot join you must be our priority now.
TFM - the freezer is the best strategy for him not going on holiday with you all . Just tell the children he wanted a holiday in the ice, rather than the sun...
I am fine re G really. I do understand and accept that he might look good, but so does a large bar of Cadbury's and that isn't good for me either! I actually despise him now, but seeing him reminded me how attractive he is. <Skin deep, skin deep>
Dior! I'm supposed to be the funny one round here That's a brilliant idea! It's going to take me a while to empty the freezer now though seeing as I'm not cooking his meals and he is living off Vesta beef rissoto anf takeaways!
PC, that sounds great! It would be wonderful! Thinking of ideas as we 'speak', just in case I can't get the freezer emptied in time
PC, go to the states and enjoy the trip and all the benfits you are going to get from it. DD will be absolutely fine, you don't have to worry and you don't have to justify going Onwards and Upwards!
pc - states sounds fab. DD will be absolutely fine at your parents and like you say, it's a good opportunity for you to be 'pc' and not just mum for a few days and mix with adults. am very
and to you and your job too lilybubble!
lilybubble I was looking at the photos again and you and dd really are absolutely gorgeous. you should go into mum and baby modelling or something!!!
TFM apologies for the massive e-mail... brace yourself!
and macdoodle, I hope you're ok. I really don't have half the pressure that you have right now and I snapped at ds last night as I had a pile of work to do and he just wanted to play and cuddle you're doing so well. so don't be too hard on yourself.
lol, TFM you're gonna be email swamped coz I just wrote to you too!
Baffy, any more calls from your recovery guy? i'm off to put new tyres on my car later i think. dd's new car seat arrived too - very swish.
don't beat yourself up about snapping at ds. you have acres more patience than me and i am sure it happens much less frequently than me with dd too.
i'm getting a teensy bit excited at the prospect of the states. should establish if it's a go at a meeting later today. only prob is scheduling with GPs availability. if it can't be co-ordinated someone else will have to go but then I will get to go to Tenerife so win/win really.
as for GPs, honestly they're in their 70s so you'd think there'd be less galivantin around and more on tap availability for me
hope i'm as sprightly as them when i get to that age tho!
I didn't get any chance to flirt though did I When he came into yours it was the one time in the whole weekend that ds decided to be a little monster! I think seeing me shouting at ds to stop drinking the water out of your vase of flowers probably put the final nail in the coffin!!!
OW has upped her game and is stamping her foot again - now she has her promotion she is trying to get h out . He has sent on the email she sent him saying that he is 'overlooking' her at work (copied into boss too). H says boss is not happy but as he is a man not sure he is reading between the lines ifswim.
Should i just stay out and expect these stupid men to sort it out? or do as i feel at the moment and at least get it out of my system?
I am absolutly fuming at the moment and that is not good - i think this is why i have felt a bit nervous lately - i just dont think it is over and she still wants her revenge.
HW, a smuch as I would love to stick my twopenneth in I would keep out of it. This is one mess he has to sort out himself.
I think it is perfectly understandable that you are fuming and need to rant. OW is now the woamn scorned and she is showing her pain at being rejected by hitting H in the only area she knows it will hurt. He has to show her is is strong and can rise above all this. He has to work with his boss on this one, she should be made to provide proof which can back up her allegations. At the moment they are just words. H needs to be ready to show that she is acting out of spite.
You my love need to stay calm and stop yourself from going in a wringing her scrawny neck! Rant on here xx
I am trying to do that - but these men just dont get it - she has been stabbing her in the back since she got what she wanted (work wise anyway). They will know soon anyway but i just want to get it all in the open to show her for what she is. Of course i am doing it for me too but i dont want her to hurt him at work as it will hurt the dcs. She angry at him for personal reasons not proffessional and if she wants personal to come into it i have enough old emails to really show her up - yes it might make h look a bit silly but i really do feel that most people think he has done the right thing.
Calm calm calm - and breath - i just want her out of my life and this is doing my head in - lets just get it all in the open like i wish i had in the first place.
I can totally understand where you are coming from, we just have to find a way to do this 'professionally' rather than as a tit for tat exercise. How would it be if H got all his evidence together i.e. the emails and whatever else he has and goes and has a word with his boss. On a personal and confidential level.
My guess is he is holding back from really letting rip because 1, he feel ahamned and embarrassed by his behaviour and 2, he feels a bit guilty for dumping her. Men are not like us women, we tell it straight, we tell it as it is, they duck and dive around thr truth hoping the whole sorry thing will just blow over. I can understand why you want to step and and take charge but, I don't think it's wise.
What the hell is her game anyway! What a cow! Why can she not just accept that it's over and leave H to get on with his job in peace. She really must be mad at him. Ruthless!!!
Just a thought but, are the emails really incriminating? I was just wondering what her reaction might be if she received copies of them with the word 'COPIES' written in bold ink at the top of them. Would they be enough to shut her up without actually having to say anything. Its something that you could do, without telling anyone
She is mad at him - he dosent need the evidence as such it is common knowlege how she feels - just that at the time i think she thought h would leave - she said all the right things and the bosses were reluctent to let either of the go - i now believe they should have sacked the pair of them.
Being men they just thought it would go away. And believed that she would be professional. H has been and i think he is still learning how devious woman can be. He is no longer ashamed or embarrassed. I dont think he has any feeling towards her - he knows he hurt her but she 'allowed' that too as she knew what she was getting into all along. In fact i think now he sees what she can be like he is appauled that he could have ever liked her - a case of being lead by his trousers!!!
The boss is angry at her too and will probably slap her wrists and she will say 'sorry i wont do it again' blah blah blah.... I just feel that i will make her feel so uncomfortable if i rant to her and at the moment that is waht i want more than anything. I want her out of my life forever so if there is a chance i can sort it why not?
The emails are the sexual kind - so would be uncomfortable for everyone - but at least she would find it hard to hold her head in her next power meeting. The company did not delete them as they have a legal requirement to keep them. She knows i have read them and i just feel so wicked at the moment. we all like to think we are not interested in what others get up to in their private lives yet we all love the juicy gossip . They wont hurt her as such professionally just be very embarasing. I am not bothered about the bosses seeing them - just want to cause an 'east-enders' moment and see if she can live with that. She was hoping i couldnt handle him working with her. I did say to the bosses i would not cause a fuss as it could look bad for them too but they will know that she has overstepped the mark anyway and so all bets are off now.
By Eastenders moment, your'e not planning on drugging her then burying her alive are you we would have to have out next Teabag meetup at Wormwood Scrubs!
Sorry dont watch eastenders really - just meant something all staff would want to 'watch' . But if there were drugs and murder all the better .
I know i am better than her in everyway. I am even considering her dcs in this - which is more than she ever did when she left them. I am better than her - hold the thought.
I do think the bosses are getting fed up with her but then she may be doing the same as baffys ow and sleeping with him anyway to keep her job.
I am feeling a bit calmer now and i am going to pick up the knife and prepare some supper for my brood . Those onions will be well and truely minced today .
Just feel that if i had taken control in the first place it could have all been sorted by now.
I am a nice person really TFM - but yes as you know we share star sign so if you cross me do watch out.
I know you are a nice person! I never doubted it. You are also trying very hard to get your marriage back on track after this woman almost tore it apart, you are fiercely protective and desperate for her not to undo any of the hard work you have done. All totally understandable.
The only problem I can see with it all is that it is H who works with her and so it is H who has to sort it out. I think you have to trust that he will do that. I'm just wondering what the impact of you becoming invovled would be, both at work and at home. IYSWIM.
I reckon that you are best coming on here to rant but playing the supportive wife at home while genlty dropping poisonous subtle hints as to how he can keep in control of the situation at work.
Unless you fancy meeting up with her and discussing things 'woman to woman'. Did you ever contact her after the 'event'? Did you ever confront her at all? Would you feel up to doing that? Maybe she needs a reminder that H has a family!
Speaking of Eastenders, DD was very disconcerted at being compared to Chelsea - 'but she's black!' she cried. I haven't watched it for ages, so we googled a picture & I had to persuade her that apart from the colour, she DOES look a bit like Chelsea !
HW, what a ghastly woman, but rest assured she's digging her own grave. Just sit tight, let her keep digging.
Baffy, I'm so sorry that none of us was a man - but I suspect that Dior really IS a hairy biker under her Liz Hurley cunning disguise . Actually, we're ALL really hairy bikers - we were wearing rubber masks on Sunday.... Having met you, I think your H is completely, utterly mad. Why is he hanging out with a psychotic lapdancer when he could have had you!?
Lilybubble, enjoy your press night tonight, you will look gorgeous whatever you wear. Do let us know if you get any freebies - DD would love Hairspray!
Tanee, I just have to say I have seen the photo's and i think your dd is gorgeous! Similar to Chelsea yes but much better looking. She is a stunner! Just like her mum!
as you know i have spent a long time looking at what i want and getting it for myself. I did meet her before i knew and did phone her at the time (she was very scared i would ruin her at work at the time). I do think this was all predicable as she has not really had closure. I also know that i need to leave it to him to sort out (and actually he is - and he is doing very well).
I am so glad i can rant on here as i have been so mad today i have paced up and down getting muself in a real state.
Thankyou for being here.
I know i am so much better than her in every way (h knows that too - and she just cant stand the fact that she messed up big time).
hey, you are welcome. Its nice to be able to return the favour you should have seen me at the weekend, trying to walk off panic attacks by pounding the pavement in the pouring rain, like a woman possessed! Mascara streaked face to boot!
I know all of the hard work you have put in, and are still putting in. You are to be commended and YES, you are without doubt a better woman than she is or than she is ever likely to be. She will get her comeuppance, i am sure of it. I am a firm believer in what goes round comes around! I think you are amazing! But you are allowed a little wobble or a violent thought every now and then, it's so nice to know you are human!
Did you get your hair done by the way? Did you go for a different cut? xx
Sorry I keep missing everything at the mo! HW you are doing so so well.
I did wonder myself if you needed to meet this woman face to face to get some closure.
I know for me, I would absolutely 100% not have been able to cope if I hadn't met h's SG! In fact within about 3 hours of me finding out she was even on the scene, I went straight to her work to see her face to face.
You most definitely are so much better than her. And by supporting H, and trusting him to deal with it in the best way he can, I think you are doing the best that you can.
Now that's not to say that I don't think a 'gentle' reminder from you would be a good thing. I know if it were me then one of those e-mails would be posted to her! Or I would be waiting outside work one evening to 'bump' into her!
But you see, I do have this little streak in me that means I just have to do something. For me that was because H was too bloody crap to do something himself, so it was me against the world!! But for you, you have H by your side, and he is trying his best to fix this. That's all good.
Rising above it really is the best way (most of the time). Even though it's bloody hard!
And hey - don't listen to me - look where my last episode of doing something got me....!! Although I have all the evidence I need against her, I could really have done without a pint thrown over my gorgeous new top!!!!
Thanks baffy - i really do not need to face her - not because i am scared but i really dont want it end up being a slanging match. However i do think if i dont do something then i will forever regret it.
It is only because she is feeling smug and secure now (with her promotion under her belt) that she feels she can start to chip away at him. I do know that the boss is pretty pissed off with her (being a man i dont think this would happen and he is now kicking himself too).
I just want to be cruel really and let her know that even though the stupid men may not know all that she is up to that i do and i am not afraid to bring it all in the open. Is that a gentle reminder - i think she thinks i will not as it may 'hurt' h too - but actually i dont think it will as he has been as open and honest as he can.
I really dont think she has many allies at work as we have had a lot of 'bits' of info from people and it will really un-nerve her if she knew she was being 'spied' on as such. I havent done any of this - others have just offered the info. Silly bitch will have her comeupance soon anyway so why am i even bothered? Because i want to watch it all and i am being too impatient for my own good.
HW, Maybe she isn't feeling smug and secure, thats why she feels the need to cause H all this trouble. Lets face it, if she were really happy and content then she would be getting on with her life, she wouldn't be sticking the knife in and trying to cause problems for H.
If we look at this from a different perspective then your H must be doing a good job in letting her know he is no longer interested and that they are well and truly history.
AS for the other stuff, I don't think it's cruel at all to want to let her know you have got her number, you know what her game is. As for being impatient, I don't think you can ever be described as impatient. I think you have been bloody marvellous!! Stop trying to be nice all the time, you can be as horrible as you want on here, I am sure Richard Templar doesn't post on MN
Glad you like the hair, hope it has given you a lift just when you need it xx
HW - I'm very much like you and Baffy in that I have to do something and can't wait around for something to happen if I can make it happen sooner. BUT, most times I have done that I've regretted it after and wished I'd played the long game and bided my time. I think she's causing trouble because she's lost and she knows it. H chose you over her and no amount of promotions will ever change that. She's a bitter twisted old cow, whereas you are a lovely attractive woman whose husband made the right choice in the end. Guess where my P is today? Do I care? Not likely . He can drink himself into the gutter on his own!!!
Can you imagine if we all went on holidays together with the P's. There would be 2 in the pub, one in the bookies, one in a lap danicng club and one in hiding somewhere Meanwhile we would be left on the beach with the kids!
Tanee dd is v gorgeous and v polite and well mannered i hope mine are like that at 16.
Lilyloo i didnt notice that dd brought a 2nd pair of shoes along that is so precious a proper girly girl. A gorgeous one at that too and the spitting image of her mum.
Hw i really feel for you its gut renching when they just wont leave off. It does sound like she is acting out cos h has completely blown her off which is a great thing. So terribly hard on you tho. She will trip up eventually.
Tfm if you dont mind id like to email you and tell a few things about my life? Im hoping it will explain why i sometimes might come across as aggressive and maybe spiteful. I dont mean to to anyone. But i may just write it all down and never send it. Then depending on your opinion/advice i will share my whole story with all my teabags.
Thanks you lot - you are right - who would want promotion over H .
In some ways i am glad she is 'hurting' and is at last showing it.
Yes TFM i want to break the rules every now and then.
At least this stressing is helping me not to eat everything in sight as i did yesterday .
We have a lovely easter to look forward to and then we are off for a break as a family, so i will continue ranting for a bit longer then put her where she belongs - out of my mind.
Thanks for the lovely words of support.
GU you sound so possitive - it really was great to meet you fwiw you certainly seemed like a fantastic person in control of their life and even though i know you do love dp on some level you dont need him.
Sugar, thank you - aren't I a good parent . I do sometimes ask DD when she's going to start being a proper teenager and banging doors and grumping around the house and screaming that nobody understands her. Things were tough when she was 10 and her father left, she really hated DP and me - I could have done with some MN advice then but I didn't know you existed - but we seem to have come through so well and I find her a delight!
Sugar, please, please do share your experience. It's only since i have started 'talking' about mine that I realise it isn't normal. I have always felt like I was living some kind of false life, it's hard to explain really but, like I was putting on an act because how I was on the outside wasn't how I felt on the inside. I would love to read your email. You would be doing me a favour. xx
Tanee, you are welcome, I meant every word. In fact, i think that photo of you and dd should be your profile picture on FB, we can hardly see you on the other one. Its a shame to hide such a beautiful face xx
Where would my h be? Not sure i want you to answer that one . Actually he is great with kids so would love to stay with them. And we have finally converted him to beaches .
I will go back and have a look at lilybubbles dd, check out the competition
Tanee, there is no way you are a hairy trucker. Stop fibbing!
God! all these beautiful women with Tossers at home/pub/bookies/lap dance bar/in hiding! Do you think there are actually any 'normal' men out there? Do they actually exsist?
I will go back and have a look at lilybubbles dd, check out the competition
Tanee, there is no way you are a hairy trucker. Stop fibbing!
God! all these beautiful women with Tossers at home/pub/bookies/lap dance bar/in hiding! Do you think there are actually any 'normal' men out there? Do they actually exsist?
Sugar you are way too hard on yourself. you don't come across like that at all. Ever!
I really admire you and I think you have a wonderful personality and are so full of life and energy and happiness. You dealt with what your H put you through with such courage and strength. Seriously, you're way too hard on yourself. <<wags finger TFM style!>>
TFM - All the normal men I know have already been snapped up by my friends! I missed the boat somehow!!! Sugar - I have never thought of you as mean or spiteful, and having met you on Sunday I would have said you were the complete opposite! HW - you are right, I do love him, but I am finding lately that I have a lot more in my life than just him. I'm putting other things first now and realising how lucky I am to have great friends (you lot included!) and family and obviously my beautiful dc. I have started wondering if gradually the love will fizzle out and one day I just won't want him anymore. (Great shoes by the way - I noticed
Aah but GU, if you met the P I live you would think he is 'normal'. He would be pleasant and sweet, smiling etc. He has a different face for the public than the one he has for me. A different voice too. So, how do you tell if a man is 'normal' before you get in too deep?
By the way Sugar, you have never come across as spiteful etc to me either. I think you are wonderful and have a great sense of humour. You have shown me nothing but kindness xx
Tfm you may regret that offer will be the longest email in history!
I think maybe i over analize things and i worry i make such a bad impression.
To be honest having read tfm email and meeting you wonderful women who have coped with so much pain and coped so much more dignified than me it stirred up lots of memories and feelings i buried. I saw a counsellor just once in my life and that was it cos exh didnt agree with it.
Im not always the best at explaining myself or my opinions so i think i need to do a big spill it all out. Bless tfm she will regret it! You may have to read it in installments over a week or 10!
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. I DO have this portrait in the attic....
with Ms Baffy.
