Hiya, my little boy is almost three weeks old, he is very hard to settle at night, and won't go into his moses basket, he prefers to be held and go to sleep on me, but even when that happens and I try to put him back in the basket he is still unsettled.

I'm thinking of using a soother to help settle him when he's crying, is it ok to use these so early on.

I am breast feeding, which is going REALLY well, no probs with him latching on or anything, but I am worried a dummy might interfear with breast feeding?

My partners sister is using one for her 2.5 week old, but he is bottle fed.

Any hints / advice?

thanks! xx

I'm breastfeeding and have given my ds a dummy from around 2-3 weeks (now 11 wks). He isn't dependent on it, usually sucks it for a bit then spits it out when he falls asleep. So far he hasn't been waking up looking for it and has actually been sucking his hand as well- even shoving the dummy out so he can suck his fingers. It hasn't affected feeding in any way at all.
good luck with whatever you decide

Sorry, didn't read OP properly. Have you tried cosleeping? Might be easier in the long run. if you're worried about him being in bed with you you could try a JOjo snuggle nest. I found that after 6 weeks things seemed to settle down a bit, he is still very young and getting used to the world
If you think he's windy/colicky then cranial osteopathy might help him settle better- it certainly did with my dd.

My friend's wee one was exclusively bfed and had a soother with no problems. However, it was a cherry shaped one made from latex - I think it's more like Mummy, lol!

i used a dummy as soon as I got home from hospital, DS soon lets me know if its comfort or milk he's after by disdainfully spitting the dummy across his cot in rage if I get it wrong!! You can but try!!

DS also usually will only take dummy if I'm holding him, he spits it out once he is in his cot.

I think you should offer a dummy if you think it may help - in fact the most recent SIDS advice recommends that all babies have dummies to reduce the risk of cot death.

my ds hated sleeping in his basket and im sure its because it would wobble when he moved, so he didn't feel secure. he slept much better when he came into bed with us.

a dummy can effect latch though, so be aware of that.

Also, my ds sleeps much better in the cot than he did in the basket but he's pretty big so that's maybe why. I put him in a grobag so he still feels snuggly

My son hated the moses basket wobble as well. Solved it my putting the basket into the cot. Snuggly and non wobbly

Have you tried swaddling him before putting him to bed. My daughter really loved being swaddled (only from waist down though - she didn't like her arms being in). Also try tying a t-shirt you have worn of a flannel you have put next your skin for a few hours in the crib with him so he can smell you and feel snug. Remember they have spent longer in the womb all tightly wrapped up than they have in the big outside world and they need the security of not being able to move their limbs freely.

Both dds had a dummy at around the 3 week age

Didn't interfere with bf at all

I think as long as bf is well established, baby is thriving and you are used to and aware of feeding cues it shouldn't be a problem

I love dummies, great way of pacifying (some) babies. Both mine were really 'sucky' so they worked wonders

my bf boy 11 wks, loves his dummy , much more settled now.

no problems with the odd ebm in a bottle either. Think he was 3-4 wks when i gave him the dummy.

try the tommee tippee closer to nature ones.

Have you tried swadd;ling? It's often the startle relfelx that wakes babies.
DS2 is four weeks, he has a tommee tippee cherry soother, but wont take it at full sleeps, just naps in his car seat/pram. Weird boy.