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Mumsnet Discussions: Parenting : How shall I brief the babysitter? (4 messages)
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Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By SearchingforAnswers on Tue 06-May-08 19:37:15
My 11 month old dd used to just nod off with door closed for her naps and bedtime. But recently she has been suffering from bedtime separation anxiety where I have to stay in room and comfort her before she nods off.

I don't mind doing this, but I have to go out tomorrow night and will be leaving her just before her bedtime.
What shall I tell the babysitter?

Also, shall I breast feed dd before her bedtime (as I will just have enough time to do this, but will have to rush off immediately after), or shall I let the babysitter give her milk from beaker?

btw - dd doesn't fall asleep on breast, so no chance of breastfeeding her to sleep before sneaking out.
And, dd has never met this babysitter before, though the babysitter will come an hour early to get acquainted.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By posieflump on Tue 06-May-08 19:49:31
How long will you be out for?
I usually just say do hwatever it takes to the babysitter
So if it is easier for them to cuddle the baby downstairs until she drops off while they watch a but of TV I'd let them do that as it is just a one off.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By Thankyouandgoodnight on Tue 06-May-08 20:52:38
If she's happy taking her milk from a beaker at bed time, then I would go for that but if you've never done it before, then it might be worth breast feeding her and then the babysitter can offer her a beaker / bottle of milk at her actual bed time?

I agree with just do what it takes and if she's still up when you get home, don't worry about it - there's many a baby that's partied the night away at weddings etc and been absolutely fine. She may go down like a dream!
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By SearchingforAnswers on Wed 07-May-08 22:23:21
Thanks for your thoughts.
I actually breastfed dd before leaving and left some EBM in fridge. Wrote out routine with instructions to cuddle to sleep if necessary.

But, babysitter was a bit of a flake. Turned up 30 mins late, lost my address, needed directions last minute. And finally, cut my evening short by texting me to say dd was 'happy' as opposed to 'asleep', so I rushed home instead of having a proper night out!

Having said that, although I didn't get on with babysitter, dd seemed to really like her and despite her separation anxiety, didn't even shed a tear when I left. hmm


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