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Mumsnet Discussions: Media / non-member requests : adoption - what could be improved? (6 messages)
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Contact mumsnet about this post From MEDIA: newmumtobe placed on Thu 14-Feb-08 15:19:57
adoption - what could be improved?

Have you successfully adopted? Would you like to adopt but have been put off by the grueling process? And either way, what in your experience could be improved?

Do the British authorities make it unnecessarily difficult? Was your social worker helpful? Have they got the balance right?

I am looking for mumsnetters to have anonymous, off-the-record conversations about their experiences. At this stage, we just want to make sure that we have identified the key issues correctly before going ahead to make the programme – which will be a two part documentary looking issues around adoption in the UK.

And of course, nothing beats personal experience of the system. I know from a thorough reading of the adoption threads how many of you are committed adopters, and I would really love to hear from you if you could spare the time.

With many thanks

Emma
Maverick Television



Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By Janni on Thu 14-Feb-08 20:01:19
We have successfully adopted and I would be happy to talk to you, as long as it was anonymous. Let me know how to get in touch with you.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By EmmaGlass on Mon 18-Feb-08 11:39:39
Hi Janni

that would be super, thank you so much.

I am happy to talk on the telephone, my direct line is 0207 874 6630, or if you prefer via email. My personal email address is e.glassar'mavericktv.co.uk.

many thanks

Emma x
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By edam on Mon 18-Feb-08 11:42:50
No personal experience of current system (my mother's adopted but that was obviously donkey's years ago) BUT I think it would be interesting if you featured the other side as well - parents who have given their children up for whatever reason.

My mother says she's glad in the olden days no-one told you you were adopted (because of the stigma of illegitimacy) because she didn't have to cope with birth family/knowing she didn't belong in some way to her parents. Although it was a hell of a shock when she found out age 45, more than 20 years after her parents had died.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By readysalted on Mon 03-Mar-08 21:29:08
Hi Emma i am an adopter and would be happy to talk to you smile
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By whomovedmychocolate on Sun 09-Mar-08 22:43:55
We tried to adopt before we had DD (we were told we couldn't have children). We were told that DH was too old and I was too old to adopt a baby (at 32).

However my big bugbear is that at no time during my infertility treatment did anyone even suggest adoption or fostering. I do think there should be posters up in hospitals to plant the idea that it's a possibility. I didn't know anything about the process despite a close family relationship with a social worker and I was turned down four times before I even found an agency willing to discuss it with us.


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