Hi-just want to undersstand something and am hoping someone can help. I had an ERPC yesterday after finding out at 12 week scan that our baby had died at 8 weeks 5 days.

I am finding the whole thing really hard to cope with as we had been trying for nearly 3 years, I have PCOS and my husband has a low sperm count, so it really did feel like we had been blessed. I am 35 shortly and feel like time is running out for us.

The hospital discharge letter I have (which the nurse told me was my souvenir to take home with me when I asked what it was) says that I had a blighted ovum-but i thought that was where there is no embryo in the the sac and there definitely was an embryo there as they showed us the pictures and explained where the heart beat should be visible etc.

Have I got this wrong?

I'd really appreciate thoughts

thanks

C

oh sweetheart ((((((((((((((((((((chants and mr chants)))))))))))))))))

i don't know sweetheart but i didn't want you to think that no-one had heard you xxxx

hmm, yes a blighted ovum is just a sac with nothing in it, but a placenta does develop, so maybe what you saw??

sorry your going through this, can you visit epu counsellor to discuss this and help you understand what has happened?/

I'm sorry you are going through this. I had the same thing happen to me at a 12 week scan when I thought everything was fine.

I too thought a blighted ovum meant no foetus developed. please feel free to check the info they have given you. (or get someone else to if you don't feel up to it)

really sorry to hear your sad news.

if there is a fetus in the sac with no heartbeat it is called a missed miscarriage, whereas a blighted ovum is a sac containing placental tissue but no fetus. if you are unsure call and speak to the doctors to ask them to check the notes and confirm what happened to you.

this happened to me last month, make sure you take time to recover from the op as well as psychologically comes to terms with what happened. i found i had good days and bad - sometimes feeling fine othertimes unable to stop crying.

my thoughts are with you and your dh

thank you all for your kind thoughts and words. Rang the hospital and spoke to oen of the nurses who was lovely. However, I do need to go to my GP to try and get him to find out what happened and why my notes say what they do. I just want my notes to reflect what did happen as there was a baby and it is important to me that this is recorded

thanks again for your advice and support

Cx

Sorry to hear your news, I had a blighted ovum discovered at 12 week scan, it is a sac with no fetus, very different to what you describe. I understand your need to establish that there was indeed a baby, and it should be recorded you are right.
I had a hard time accepting the fact that there was "no baby" for me and people around me used the term "phantom pregnancy" which was very uspetting and innapropriate.
The Miscarriage Association really helped me too by the way.

Thanks Thornrose. I am sorry to hear of your experience. People can be really insensitive sometimes. I was given a leaflet at the hosptal abotu the miscarriage association which I have not really looked at yet-I'll fish it out and have a read

thanks again to everyone who has replied to this and shared their experiences.

C