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Mumsnet Discussions: Miscarriage : sex after a miscarrige (11 messages)
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Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By tye on Sat 19-Apr-08 09:20:42
ok so i lost my 2 little angels at 18weeks +4 only 1week and four days ago. not that i intend to yet but if i were to when would it be safe to have protected intercorse again? dont like to ask about this subject just yet but at lest i no then when the time comes.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By cece on Sat 19-Apr-08 09:23:48
tye I am so sorry to hear your news. I lost my angel at 18 weeks +6 last Dec. sad How are you doing?

We waited 18 days. But mainly because we got very drunk on news year eve and dtd that night iyswim.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By tye on Sat 19-Apr-08 09:29:39
im doing ok whent to the chapel last nite and was so shocked by the size of there coffin i didnt stop crying untill bedtime never did i imagine something so small. so sorry for he loss of your little angel too.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By cece on Sat 19-Apr-08 09:35:15
Yes the ocffin was tiny for us too. Did you spend any time with them?
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By tye on Sat 19-Apr-08 09:57:33
yes spent sometime with them couldnt bring myself to leave them.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By cece on Sat 19-Apr-08 10:02:11
I hope you are getting the support you need from your family, friends and the hospital.

We called our daughter Hope what did you call your little ones - I guess they were twins?

It is very tough but things do get better I promise. Although I know you can't imagine that yet. You learn to live with it and the bad days go from all the time to less. Have you joined the SANDS forum - they have a little section for late miscarriage.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By tye on Sat 19-Apr-08 10:08:25
yes they were identical boys and we called them daniel and david. although the hospital have not been much help my partners been great doing all the house work and takig our little boy to and from school.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By cece on Sat 19-Apr-08 10:11:51
Do you know why it happened.

In my case I didn't feel the baby move for a day or two and went in to the hosptial to be checked only to find she had died. sad

The post mortem found no reason.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By tye on Sat 19-Apr-08 10:37:30
no i dont no why it happend. for 4days before i was in hospital due to bleeding. i was scanned less than 20 hours before and they said the babys were very happy and healthy and moving around then around 12 hours later my waters went and it all happend from ther then i was taken to theatre to have my placenta manually removed. not really sure what maually removed means as they put me to sleep and didnt really explain anything afterwards.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By cece on Sat 19-Apr-08 10:48:46
I had a very small bleed 4 days before and 3 days before I heard the heartbeat at the hospital. They saud all was fine.

It just seems so unfair doesn't it?
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By catzy on Sat 19-Apr-08 12:37:34
So sorry to hear of your losses tye & cece.

I lost a little boy at 20 weeks. 6 yrs ago. I had to have surgery to remove my baby and was told to avoid sex for 6 weeks.

Did your doctor not give you any advise? If there is no medical reason then it's down to when you feel ready.

I hope our angels are all playing together.


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