my parents are with my dds and i need to get some work done, but i cannot drag myself out of bed, and i cannot think...
any advice? what helps beat the fatigue?

You can't beat it!! You have to accept it and rest! Are you in the first trimester? It tends to pass by the 2nd....

i am 13 weeks. i feel so useless....

I haven't found anything yet. My last pregnancy I spent weeks sitting on the sofa with my little girl watching tv which I felt awful about but just couldn't get up to do anything more energetic. Forget the work if you can and rest

It will pass - and quite soon hopefully. God it's a nightmare isn't it? If I ever manage to conceive number 2 I'm dreading the first trimester with a 3 year old running about the place. Last time I wasn't even working, so spent the whole time with my feet up watching The West Wing

I couldn't do anything during my last pregnancy and to be honest this one is going the same way. Most people start getting a bit more energy at 13/14 weeks (which then vanishes at the end as they get big and uncomfortable!), but I'm not one of the lucky ones. How were your previous pregnancies?

I would recommend resting as much as possible, and using any energy that you do have wisely. My to-do lists are tiny, DH does the washing up, we eat ready meals all the time, you get the idea. And you have my sympathies, it really is a bit grim isn't it?

it's number three, it is awful you just cant fight it and you can't take care of anything!

i found taking iron tablets helped loads with my fatigue - it really perked me up... try n eat well too, difficult i know. im on my third pregnancy and i felt sooo tired and the iron tablets helped so much... try to only do wot u really need to do in the day, stuff the rest it will get done when it gets done...it does pass..keep going mate

kyd, I can't remember but isn't too much iron a risk in pregnancy? (Or is that Vitamin A? Why do they tell you not to eat liver, even if a person wanted to?)

The liver thing is vitamin A.

And iron deficiency is quite common in pregnancy - worth getting checked out for.

I'm still exhausted too - 3rd time round at 21 weeks. Though my bedtime has been pushed out from 8pm to 9pm these days, so I guess it has improved slightly!!!

Oh good, just checking. It's been a while since I had to worry about all that, alas.

Interesting about the iron. I had a breeze with ds1 I now realise. Not so with this one so far. Very early days.. week 6/7 and boy its different. Sensitive to smells, no energy and nausia. Hoping it will go as fast as it came.

try spatone it is an iron supplement that doesnt give you an upset stomach (as it actually poncey mineral rich water ) cant taste it at all in a glass of tropicana

eat well

just accept the tiredness, it is to be expected, you are after all GROWING A WHOLE NEW PERSON and so need to rest a bit

Pull yourself together. You're just malingering. Pregnancy isn't an illness, it's a normal female process. Just get on with it... Blah, blah, blah.

Thankfully I don't believe any of that bollocks. You need to rest, my love, and that's all there is too it. You can't fight the fatigue - your body needs you to conserve your energy and that's what you have to do.

But then you have children already, so you know this. I was signed off work for two weeks at around this stage because I just couldn't function any more. Hang on in there.

resign yourself to it
lots of reverse lie-ins (early nights )

second spatone, and also sepia helped take the edge off for me in first trimester - homeopathic medicine avail from boots and perfectly safe in pg. I found if I had the chance to rest as often as poss during the day (e.g. I stole 10 mins here and there) it helped a lot. I think at 13 weeks you're likely to feel better pretty soon though, I hope! I got soooo frustrated with it aside from anything else I like to be active!

Oh my, how I sympathise
I'm on preg # 4, and I feel guilty as sin watching Thomas with my nearly 2 year old, trying to keep the 6 and 4 year old occupied when not in school.
Thank God hubby has been around this time, or I would have fallen down in a molten heap. I don't remember feeling this exhausted with the others, but perhaps it's just because I'm older now (40) and I have all these other little people chasing around.
I have faith it will pass, we'll all hang in together. I know I have at least another 5 weeks or so of feeling this way
Hugs to all.

im about 6/7 weeks gone with ds 2.9 running me ragged it doesnt seem to matter how much sleep i get i never feel rested at all atm!dont remember being like this with dscant wait untill it passes