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Mumsnet Discussions: Am I being unreasonable? : to be cross about cricket - sad pushy mum alert (30 messages)
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 09:29:30
ok ds2 and ds1 join cricket club
both excelent cricketers. really. ds2 patic. dh ( former very good cricketer) coaches.

tkae alogn a mate - has never played cricket before
and you guessed it

team selection for the match no ds2 adn ds1 - but NEW BOY!!! adn he siNOT AS GOod!

dh irate
is plannign response.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By foxinsocks on Sat 17-May-08 09:30:20
oh dear...do they rotate selection?
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 09:31:07
well newboy has onely done ONE session!!! our sons ahev done three.
ds2 is two eyars younger and was comented upon for being good for" a year 4"

eh is year 2
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By FrannyandZooey on Sat 17-May-08 09:31:20
oh no!
how can dh do anything without looking sad though?
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By frogs on Sat 17-May-08 09:31:57
Also would be cross. Tis bollocks. But what to do without looking like crazed cricket mum?
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By foxinsocks on Sat 17-May-08 09:32:07
is his mother the wife of the selector wink?

this sports stuff is a minefield

what did your dses say?
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 09:32:24
thast the issue
adn he firggin coaches! i knwo the oys are crap at somethings (swimming sprinting) etc but cricket is their forte.

really
partic ds2 - played since he was 2 wihtout exagg.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By sophiewd on Sat 17-May-08 09:32:31
I would be fuming
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By frogs on Sat 17-May-08 09:32:49
At ds cricket club they take attendance at training into account as well as innate talent.

Perhaps the way forward?
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 09:32:55
adn WE invited newboy along!!! his mum is mortified!
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 09:33:27
yes
i am strangely cross too despite normally caring more abotu th Eurovision than the wrold cup
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By foxinsocks on Sat 17-May-08 09:35:32
were your boys upset?

perhaps it's the sort of cricket club where they don't choose on merit
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 09:35:59
hmm maybe,
arethe boys sad.
no kidn of confused and busy off to play tennis.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By foxinsocks on Sat 17-May-08 09:41:47
annoying though. I'd be cross.

what's dh going to do?
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 09:43:25
hes gone to the loo to think about it
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By whatsoccurring on Sat 17-May-08 09:45:47
Does seem v unfair, how embarrasing for the new boy

Does the team selection stay for the season or just one match? Seems weird if DH coaches that they didn't pick one of your boys
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By foxinsocks on Sat 17-May-08 09:46:09
lol prime thinking time

I reckon I might mention it alongside a conversation about wanting to encourage the dses and how does team selection work, does everyone get a chance? something like that.

Hard not to appear pissed off and meddling.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By foxinsocks on Sat 17-May-08 09:47:44
oh mebbe if he coaches there (thought he just coached in general), they didn't pick them specifically because of that (anti favouritism and all) but that's a shit reason imo
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By duchesse on Sat 17-May-08 09:59:56
Maybe he is showing particular promise, this new boy. Maybe not yet as good as your coached sons but a lot more natural ability?
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 10:01:54
ah right WELLL
the first week they said they had a match where theyd put intallt he players from last year just that once. and THIS was CANCELLED apprently
so we think slection this week is form THAt game,,, wiht newboy slotted in to make up the number
interstingly all the kids are adult players sons.

dh is hacked off but thinks he will give them one morechance and then if no jjoy mention it and go somwhere else,

they haev eveen asked dh to get a CRB check to coach!!
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 10:02:34
no
no he is not as good. adn not as expereinced, has only just bought a bat.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By Bridie3 on Sat 17-May-08 10:02:57
This does sound odd. Foxinsock's suggestions are good.

Last year, my daughter, the best runner in her year and never beaten by any other girl, was given the throwing in the inter-school athletics championships. She was gutted--it felt like she was being punished for being good at running. I had a word with the teacher and she was put back into the running. Which she won: both for her year and the year above. This was the only time I have ever commented on team selections in their school careers. I think it was just the teacher being dippy, tbh. She never keeps notes of who wins what.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 10:03:44
yes i dont lie getting involved
ds1 desperate to be in school soccer team and isnt. hopefully wil ebnext year when in year 6
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 10:04:59
even newboys mum admits they are way better.
she is a sweet heart and a mte of mine.
am thinking there was one space adn they put him in rather than ahvign to chosse between the dsses
deluded moi?! grin
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By foxinsocks on Sat 17-May-08 10:08:55
I think that would annoy me so much (the selection being the adult player's kids), I'd find another cricket club. But I'm a bit hot headed with this stuff and can't BEAR all this sporty selection stuff.

If it makes you feel any better, I tried 3 cricket clubs for ds before I found one which I felt was right. First one was far too strict and pushy, second one was all buddy buddy stuff , last one is just the right balance of play and serious and ds LOVES it.

I don't think there's any problem looking around for the right club because not all of them have the right ethos imho. But probably sensible to give it a chance I guess.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Sat 17-May-08 10:13:13
ta foxy.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By snorkle on Sat 17-May-08 12:14:20
Just a suggestion, but is it possible that he was chosen as it's an easy fixture and they didn't want too strong a side? We've had instances with school matches where if you field the strongest team the victory is so overwhelming it's embarassing. Such occassions are a good opportunity for weaker players to have a chance to play.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Wed 21-May-08 19:18:20
WE ARE IN IN IN
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By tiredemma on Wed 21-May-08 19:26:00
We had something very similar at Rugby recently. Dp is 'Head'hmm coach of ds1 team and cant be seen to 'favour' ds.

Lots of 'politics' every week...
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By iCod on Wed 21-May-08 19:27:31
THATS HTE REASON YOU DO THE COAHING FGS

a rl mate of mine has htis with her kid toowho wasnt so godo at footie

but i said if they want your h to coach thats theprice they pay - he isnt a babysitter -w hat are htey supposed to do wiht their OWN kid when tehy have matches.


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