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Mumsnet Discussions: Am I being unreasonable? : ...to have got really arsey with the man who phoned me at 3am? (26 messages)
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By jura on Fri 16-May-08 11:58:32
Phone rings just before 3am. It's on my side of the bed. I pick it up, "Hello?". Long pause, a few clicks, then what sounds like an automated voice, so I put the phone down. 30 seconds later it rings again.

"Hello?"
"Hi there, my name's John and I'm calling about XXX holiday property..."
"It's 3am, what the hell are you playing at?"
...

"Oh, sorry, I'm a bit clueless about transatlantic time differences, can I call you some other time?"
"No, don't call me. Goodbye".

Only afterwards did I wonder... and yes, dh has been researching holiday houses on the West Coast of America. Yes, he's sent off a query to someone, including a phone number. angry

He had a plaintive little email this morning:

"Dear Guest:
I just called and a lady picked up very angry about my apparent early morning call at 3:00 PM [sic] telling me to not bother to ever bother again.
Anyway, we are open for your stay if you are interested.
Sorry to bother your sleep.
Thought you'd like the personal touch of a real phone call to answer any questions.
Guess not!"

So, dear reader:

AIBU to have expected that someone in the USA, on the West Coast, at 7pm their time, might have considered that phoning someone in the UK, 8 hours ahead, at 3am their time, might have been a touch stupid? Or should I have realised immediately, woken up sufficiently to have had a lucid middle-of-the-night conversation and been sweetness and light?

And should I call him back right now to discuss our possible booking winkgrin?
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By GrumpyOldHorsewoman on Fri 16-May-08 12:03:46
I had a call like this when in the US. My sister was staying with us, and she is a supply teacher. Her school in the UK called to see whether she would be available for work the following week. It was 4am our time, and I was not best pleased.

No, YANBU. People have no common sense.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By HonoriaGlossop on Fri 16-May-08 12:04:06
well I wouldn't take a holiday home from a company employing workers who can't add up

not promising is it...

look somewhere else!
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By jura on Fri 16-May-08 12:06:44
GOHW, that's more acceptable though. Presumably it was a UK school calling a UK person - they're probably not to know she's in the US on a massive time difference...

If they did know she was there, then yes, it's just as bad!

Agree, I don't think I'd want to stay there as a result...grin
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By edam on Fri 16-May-08 12:06:59
YANBU but I'd call him and be nice about it. He's apologised. Although the 'guess not' is a bit passive aggressive.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By jura on Fri 16-May-08 12:08:02
Added to which, he split an infinitive in his email, which offends the pedant in me even further. wink
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By jura on Fri 16-May-08 12:09:02
edam, should I call him now? It's 4am Pacific time grin
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By edam on Fri 16-May-08 12:33:38
Oooh, I'd be so tempted!
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By yorkshirepudding on Fri 16-May-08 12:35:29
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Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By HereComeTheGirls on Fri 16-May-08 12:38:48
oh his email is sooo whiny and pathetic!!
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By amner on Fri 16-May-08 12:41:27
Typically American !

<massive sweeping statement there grin>

I'd be livid !
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By yorkshirepudding on Fri 16-May-08 12:42:29
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By PuppyMonkey on Fri 16-May-08 12:45:16
The guess not is very shock. Verging on sarcastic, I'd venture..
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By NurkMagiggy on Fri 16-May-08 12:45:44
I feel sorry for him!!!! grin

Mind you men never call me in the night any more...

<wistful>
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By jura on Fri 16-May-08 12:48:07
Oh, just to add, dh's email response was pathetic:

"Sorry about the response to your call - I shouldn't have put my phone number on the form really, as it was likely to cause problems with the time difference!"

Not

"Sorry about the response to your call, but what did you expect, you fuckwit?" hmmgrin
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By HereComeTheGirls on Fri 16-May-08 12:54:11
Should have said "I put my phone number on expecting that you'd have more than one brain cell and could work out the time difference.........I GUESS NOT"
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By GrumpyOldHorsewoman on Fri 16-May-08 12:54:49
Jura, my sister's school were calling her on my US house phone - they knew she was in the US, and had phoned my mum for the number!

So, as you see, fuckwittery is not the sole preserve of Americans...
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Lulumama on Fri 16-May-08 12:55:48
i would not rent a house across the ocean from someone who was total unable to work out transatlantic time differences
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By LazyLinePainterJane on Fri 16-May-08 13:07:13
you should call him now!!
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By Citronella on Fri 16-May-08 13:19:46
No not unreasonable at all he got what he deserved.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By InLoveWithSweeneyTodd on Fri 16-May-08 13:40:54
yanbu, the email was a bit off IMO (apparent early call???). A sort of half apology. I'd tell them to eff off.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By schneebly on Fri 16-May-08 13:44:48
YANBU - he should have known about the time difference and checked if he was unsure and that e-mail is bloody cheeky.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By alicet on Fri 16-May-08 21:45:42
PMSL at herecomethegirls!!!!! Great response!

What a sarky and pathetic email. If I was him I would have emailed apologising profusely for forgetting to check on the time difference. Don't go stay with them. You mist be able to find somewhere else where the owner is more accomodating!
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By alicet on Fri 16-May-08 21:45:57
must even, not mist!
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By anonq on Fri 16-May-08 21:49:31
please call him at 3am us time!!! grin
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By Heated on Fri 16-May-08 22:00:55
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