you are totally right dynamic in all you say

Agree with winky

DD had a b/day party last week
DS came with friend but got food and cake only
No presant it was his sisters b/day not his

Eeeek, moral high ground? Yurt, sorry to have offended you.

And if you're worried that ds2 and ds3 might grow up spoiled brats they repeatedly miss out on normal stuff because of their brother. No trip round the pirate ship visiting the city yesterday because there was a queue and we had ds1, no ice cream because there was a queue and we had ds1, no drink in a cafe because there was a queue and we had ds1, no excursion into to kiddies play tent because it was too crowded for ds1.

They get plenty of opportunity to learn that the world does not revolve around them. I don't think a small present next week when its ds1's birthday is going to leave them morally bankrupt. Might give some people something to suck lemons about, but hey ho.

Couldn't give a stuff what everyone else does. DS1 didn't understand what a present was until he was 7 years old and never even tried to open his. Giving his siblings a present on his birthday gave us a chance to keep them away from their excitement about what it might be and us a chance to open his present hand over hand with him. He's about to be 9, and I love seeing him enjoy opening presents and understanding what they are - we waited long enough for it- so if a cheapo £2 toy car from tesco's gets me a chance to watch that on a siblings birthday then I'll indulge cheers. Can't see why it would remotely bother anyone else.

But you make yourself comfortable on your moral high ground why don't you?

I agree with winky.
In general I think kids get too much these days. (oh, God, what am i turning in to?)

<buggers off whistling tune from old Hovis advert>
disclaimer: yes, i know it's Holst, lol!

meant their

Well, a present is a present whatever and deserves thanks - if that's what you mean?

I think very young siblings should get to go the party because it's hard to find a babysitter and they don't eat much. Party bag I can understand but you could just give them a slice of cake and a balloon in theirs?

And yes, a child has to learn that they don't get presents every time it's someone else's special day.

i agree - its tough shit -

what's gone on?

a present is a present even if it's the wrong size, is the cheapest on the list of a long list of presents given out by yourself.

that if a child goes to a birthday party that there siblings don't automatically recieve a party bag/get to come along for the fun of it.

a child has to learn that on someones birthday they don't get a small gift for themselves.

Shoot me down, flame me do as you will but is it the weather or is everyone BU?