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Mumsnet Discussions: Am I being unreasonable? : To think a doctor really should be asking... (17 messages)
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Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By beaniesteve on Sun 11-May-08 14:54:46
A patient 'why do you shave your pubic hair'?

Didn't happen to me but someone I know who went to have a lump investigated in her groin area. I have the same thing (Swollen node) and think it's really awful that the doctor, after diagnosing it as a swolen node, asked her why she removed her hair!

Surely that's none of his business and has nothing to do with the diagnosis?
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By beaniesteve on Sun 11-May-08 14:55:24
Sorry - title should be 'shouldn't' not Should!

Can you edit these things?
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By DarrellRivers on Sun 11-May-08 14:57:34
It can be important as to causing the lump
shaving, waxing removing pubic hair upsets the balance and can cause infections around the follicles, so yes it is a relevant question
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By lazarou on Sun 11-May-08 14:59:17
Perhaps he thought it did have something to do with it.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By MrsBadger on Sun 11-May-08 15:01:53
'because I had lice'
'because it started falling out'
'because it's so itchy'
'because my boyfriend told me it'd stop me catching his herpes'

all gold dust in the search for a diagnosis
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By scatterbrain on Sun 11-May-08 15:09:35
Everything is relevant !

I think the Dr was very right to ask the question !
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By beaniesteve on Sun 11-May-08 15:44:55
But why ask 'why do you do it?

Fair enough, explain why it may not be a good idea, or why it may have contributed to the swollen node, but don't ask 'why'?

Why is that relevant?
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By mrsruffallo on Sun 11-May-08 15:46:12
Well, it's quite unusual isn't it?
I suppose he has to ask why before he saya she she shouldn't
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By TheFallenMadonna on Sun 11-May-08 15:50:50
What MrsB said. The answer to the question might give some insight.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By Janni on Sun 11-May-08 15:53:10
Doctors have licence to ask all sorts of questions the rest of us can't because they're unravelling a diagnostic mystery. One can always say 'I'd rather not answer that'.
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By stitch on Sun 11-May-08 15:55:41
and then it would make it harder for the doctor to figure out the problem
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By suedonim on Sun 11-May-08 16:07:36
She may have replied 'Because I had a huge boil there and shaving made it easier to tend to.' It seems a relevant question, to me.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By cory on Sun 11-May-08 16:09:05
I've had swollen nodes in my armpits a couple of times after shaving.
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By MrsBadger on Sun 11-May-08 17:06:39
am still puzzling over this

is she ashamed of her reasons?
why not just say 'for cosmetic reasons'?
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By CoteDAzur on Sun 11-May-08 17:22:34
'to better feel DH's tongue during oral sex'
Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By helpwithnanny on Sun 11-May-08 17:34:01
ROLF cotedazuregrin
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By emma1977 on Sun 11-May-08 17:47:51
The reason why may be very relevant.

She may be itchy/get boils/have vaginal discharge which she feels is improved by removing the hair. The problem may also be causing the inflammed node.

She doesn't have to be as explict in her explanation as cotedazur! But if it is just personal preference, that is all she has to say. What's the fuss?


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