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I j ust want to go round and punch the fucking ignorant twats.
They spent 9 months renovating before moving in - after work and at weekends there be drilling/sanding/hammering until 10 at night
Now they've moved in its fucking music
ARGH they are doing my fucking head in! DH is upstaris AGAIN watching a DVD so he doesn't have to listen to them
I've been round a few times to ask them to turn int down, and they do, but I don't want to seem like a moaning minnie! I gave them wine and a card when they moved in and again on her birthday, to show that I'm FUCKING NICE
If it continues I may just blow my top and NastyG will appear
onc eyou have a month or so (depressing, i KNOW) they will giv eu a password so u can ring them up and they will coem round and tlka to your neighbours, possibly confiscate or fine them
or you could take a new approcah... find your favourite, most annoying song that if the opposite of what they listen to, and get up a t5am (or 6am) and out speakers to their bedroom wall and play it on loop for abotu 2 hours.
they shoudl get the message of how thin the walls are by you doing that!
Ask them to come round to your house so they know how loud the music is in your house. Tell them you don't want to keep moaning on but it really is intrusive for you. That way its non-confrontational and they KNOW what you're talking about.
Of course if it becomes a regular thing call EH as suggested
Ours are 2 floors above us and play 'music' that sounds like rapid hammering/cement mixer. It makes my living room vibrate. It's the sort of music that very quickly makes me want to smash things and kill people. God knows what effect it has on people who are already like that to start with, like them. They also have an assortment of very large barky/howling dogs. They are utter louts. The stairway smells for ages after they have passed through it. We refer to them as 'The Morons'. Everybody else in the building has been complaining about them for ages too.
Fortunately they have just been served with an eviction notice as they haven't paid their rent for months either.
i second the approach of asking them to come to yours and see what they think. we don't have good soundproofing in our building so that's what we did when our neighbours moved in, they were mortified and really lovely about it, and warn us in advance about parties etc (and we'd do the same if we had any...) it's just courtesy, and imo most people are obliging where possible. if they're not, then they're cunts and you'll have to get logging.
Yes, I think the appraoch to ask them to come round and see how loud it is will work best, but I need to be calm! I think they've gone out now (door slamming grrrr)
In all other areas they're nice people, I have said to them before, wen asking them to turn it down "I don't think you realise h ow thin teh walls are "but because theya re big solid victorian terraces and we aren't that noisy, they don't realise (or don't care)
actually, with our downstairs neighbours i totally acknowledged that it wasn't even being played that loud in their house while i was in there. they'd put the stereo in the old chimney breast and it was amplifying it into our house in the same way that a guitar does, iykwim? they moved the stereo and turned down the bass, so that really helped.
Please can I have a quick hijack to ask expat something?
<< Expat, last week, on another thread that I can't find now, you said that it was common in the States to hire someone for a day to cook a week's worth of healthy meals for a family. I'm very interested in this (being the cook, not the cookee), but I'm not having much luck finding info. What should I google? Thanks. Hijack over. >>
MamaG YADNBU. Twats. Buy a Daniel O Donnell CD, and put in on repeat, place your speakers against their walls, and go out for the day.
my mom sends me Family Circle, Woman's Day and Southern Living.
i think it may have been in one of my S. Living ones, but i'll have a check.
it was an American woman married to a S. African man. they lived in SA for 13 years and had 3 kids, then moved back to the US, and she got hte idea because she was amazed how American women were expected to manage everything in the house and a FT job with no outside help.
MamaG - if you are thinking of selling might not be best to complain formally to environmental health as I think you'll have to declare it if and when you sell (neighbour problems) to potential buyers . Good idea to try and do it reasonably first by getting them to come to yours and listen to what you have to listen to. Good luck.
I know this sounds crap, we had the same problem and phoned the police, they sent around a community police officer who did not say who phoned ( their music was offensive and many heard it) so it could not be pinned at us, even though I would not of had a problem with them telling them who contacted them. We have a young kid and embarressing when he bought friends around as the music was racist and full of swearing. Im not a prude, however sucked when his friends came round and as a childminder embarressing when employers came round. It has stopped now, thankfully.
You've been nice and reasonable, now you have to say "you are being unreasonably noisy and I am being driven to insanity. If it continues I will no option but to smash your car up you will then discover how fucking unreasonable I can be too. I'm sure we understand each other. Good day to you".
expat - I just assumed that because I am a nice person who always thinks of others and they were complete and utter bast*rds that the voodoo would not come back to me.
It wasn't very heavy, maybe didn't even count as voodoo as I had none of their hair or anything - I just drew caricatures of them and stuck pins in them while wishing them gone. Not many months later they left.
We had neighbours like this. We lived in a terraced house and our back gardens were all together too. During the day they had music blaring out, the only places you couldn't hear their music was the bathroom and the stairs, every other room had adjoining walls to theirs. When I had dd the noise was dreadful, I was desperate for sleep as I was feeding on demand and at one point I screamed at the wall "shut the fuck up you stupid people! I've just had a baby and I want some fucking sleep!" It didn't make any difference.
During the summer we couldn't sit in our garden and enjoy it as they'd have their music blaring out, even if they weren't in the garden!
It came to a head one day when we invited friends over for a BBQ. We asked them to turn their music down just whilst we had our BBQ. They did do, but we were half an our late with the BBQ so they turned it up again. We went round and they said they'd turned it down and gave us half an hour so what were we complaining about? They also said that if we didn't like noise then we shouldn't have chosen to live in a terraced house! I said that if they liked their bloody noise so much they should live in a detached as normal people would have consideration for their neighbours.
We moved in the end. I couldn't enjoy the house at all. The music was all day every day and they'd have parties in the evening that went on and on and on. We couldn't have the kids bedroom window open because they'd hear all the obsenities.
So I've no answer for you I'm afraid, but you do have my sympathy.
i totally sympathize, my neighbours are currently blasting out scooter, (d)h is trying to drown it out by blasting fucking cascada the kids are all in the garden happily dancing (to which noise i dont know) i have my ipod in so i now dont care
we also had a neighbour from hell who blasted rap music at all hours - had police called on them several times by other neighbours in the wee hours of the morning.
and the downstairs psycho who blasted and tried to sing karoke tunes every single minute he was not at work, and as he was a hospital porter he worked a bunch of odd shifts.
they made our lives a nightmare and like i said, we used a credit card to get out of there.
bass and loud music makes me want to get medieval.
We had neighbours with an extremely noisy teenage ds who insisted on playing very loud dance/rave music. Dh once went round in his underwear at 3am to tell him to turn it down....Don't think poor lad has got over the sight of very irate dh in his underpants .
MamaG, if you report them, it could have been any of your neighbours iyswim. Those kinds of people will only take notice of authority.
Have a word with your other neighbours and see if it pisses them off too, collectively you have more power. Then get a letter together signed by all your neighbours, that way no one person gets the blame and they get the message that actually, they are pissing off quite a few people.
sympathy. We've moved twice and bakrupted ourselves in the process to get away from noisy neighbours. They didn't give a shit and told us to fuck off when we asked them to turn it down. EH did bugger all, as did the police. Right now there's a tit sitting outside with his car stereo blasting away. the house is vibrating and I want to kill him. He's not from round here but is parking on our road presumably while his other half does some shoppping (we're 20 yards from the High Street)
'We've moved twice and bakrupted ourselves in the process to get away from noisy neighbours. They didn't give a shit and told us to fuck off when we asked them to turn it down. EH did bugger all, as did the police.'
yep, we've been there, too.
seriously, we whacked about £2000 on a credit card to get away from asshole neighbours who were aggressive and abusive and no one really gives a toss.
i don't blame you for wanting to move, mamag.
i've lived in tents and cars and at least in such places you can get away and get some peace.
We came home from shopping at 3pm to find the house literally vibrating to the booming noise from next door. Looks like mother and father have gone out leaving 17 yo DS with girlfriend and mate sitting in the garden fing and blinding.
It is the sort of "music" that if it comes on my car radio I turn it straight off, so to have it forced on us is really unpleasant. When I went out to put the washing out the noise actually hurt my ears, it's that loud.
Our council website says they deal with noise complaints in 3 working days The neighbouring council come straight out and confiscate equipment.
I came back from the shop today and he was in the front yard - said "about last night ..."
Basically said that they didn't feel they should have to whisper and have their music on really quietly, it was Friday night and it wasn't a party, they just had friends round for a meal - I said it was very noisy for us and perhaps they should come in and listen. I said I didn't want to fall out with them, but would appreciate some consideration - even threw in that I'm pg and couldn't cope wiht the stress (!)
He said "well, we never hear any noise from you"
I said no, thats because we don't make loads of noise and don't let the kids screech the house down as we are CONSIDERATE NEIGHBOURS but I think he's a bit fucking thick to get it.
I really don't think I got anywhere. I got hte impression that he thought I was being unreasonable to moan! HE said "it was only 10 o'clock" YES AND WE'VE GOT TWO CHILDREN
wanker wanker WANKER
Cod- kids to out to play at 8ish but its about to get a whoooole lot earlier
God my neighbours have rigged their speakers in a fucking TREE in their garden, so it's actually nearer my house than theirs - and they're in their house, and we've been blasted with the worst screamy rock music I've ever heard.
oh god, sympathy. We are in a flat and have neighbours below and next to us who are inconsiderate and noisy. I will never ever understand people who play music at a volume they know disturbs others. I just dont get it. It's the one thing that makes me want to get the fuck out of london and move somewhere quiet.
There is nothing worse than inconsiderate neighbours who believe that you can do ANYTHING and make any amount of noise as long as it's before 11pm, and trot out that line as well.
You have my sympathy too - we have noise issues with our neighbours. We are pretty quiet on the whole - except when DDs are up at 7am but next door on one side (we are in a terrace)are generally very noisy. Baritone singing in the bedroom (next to ours) at 11.30 on a week night, loud arguments, generally shoutiness with back door open, mates round drinking outside (more shouting, loud laughter, smoking right under DDs bedroom)....it's very tiresome, but not something we feel we can mention without provoking offence....
[Now, I am going to apologise to the OP for hijacking this thread]
ANYWAY, back to the original topic - I am very bothered not only by their general noise, but particularly by the sound of their, ahem, lovemaking. It is VERY loud - both of em shout and shriek from start to finish. We are in a victorian terrace but the walls are thin and noise carries. They must know this. It's like a porn film soundtrack only worse. It doesn't happen often but when it does, it wakes me up, makes me feel quite sick and I'm worried about the DDs. I don't want to have the birds and the bees convo with them just yet, and especially not in that context. The other night, they came home, could obviously see my bedroom light on, and did it downstairs but I could still hear them. I can't bear it but how awkward to say "We can hear everything"!!
My friend was renting a terraced house which had been soundproof because the owner was a DJ and loved to play his music so in consideration to his neighbours, he put soundproofing in. Why can't more people be like that?
Similarly, my hairdresser lives in a ground floor flat and she had her ceiling lowered and soundproofed because of her inconsiderate neighbours upstairs. Now she does not hear a thing. This website might help plus this forum has some useful tips, especially from the housing association officer and the person who owns a soundproofing business on page 2.
our issue is not loud music (huge sympathy for op) it is an extractor fan in next door's new en suite that is right next to our bedroom. Every time they use it it wakes us up as so noisy. What would you do?
Trouble is environmental health do not know when to stop, one of my neighbours showed me a nasty letter from the council as a woman kept putting in complaints about her mother who lived upstairs saying the doors squeaked (her mother is well over eighty ffs and a dear sweet old lady) The woman downstairs seemed to be running a vendetta against a vunerable old lady and was putting in complaints about everything. The old lady was frightened to put on her television and the amazing thing is nothing can be done
i spent 10 years living next door to druggies loud music cars outside revvin up all night loud music all the time we have had to buy a house in an area where everyone had to sign a form no loud music to be heard no fixing cars outside property only allowed 1 pet no dogs barking NO swearing outside in earshot of other ppl the list goes on and on but you know what it works i have been here 1 year and its so quiet people are nice friendly we all moved here for the same reason for a quiet life apparantly this a quite a new idea and they are going to intoduce it to other area 50% of the properties here are now worth up to half a million pound its such a sought after area i really undertand your frustrations it really pisses me of when neighbours just do not care for your family,s feelings makes life miserable theres no need for it
I work in Env Health and here's my advice for a few things you can do: 1. Complain to EH and follow their advice e.g. making a note of times/days of noise etc. Each council does things a bit differently but all should try to resolve it for you. They may also have a specific anti-social behaviour service. 2. Phone the police at the actual time the music is happening. They have the powers to seize the music equipment, although would probably just give a warning on first attendance. 3. Find out if your neighbours own their house. If not, you can approach the landlord and ask him to sort out the tenants. 4. See if there is a local mediation service. They can be really good at sorting out these situations amicably by making the noisy neighbours realise the impact of their behaviour. Hope this helps. Good luck.
God my sympathy. We live in a terrace flat with people above and either side. Most of them you dont hear except for ordinary living noise which is fine. But it just takes one. The cretins on one side who play LOUD gangsta rap and hang out in the garden smoking drugs and shouting and swearing. They have tiny children who you sadly never hear, would not mind that. They are all on benefits so are in all the time. When I was at work it wasnt so bad but at home with the baby now its driving me crazy. You start to lose your reason.
I HATE it. I dread the weather getting nicer as not so aware of them in the winter. We live in london and like expat we are sick and tired of being crammed in with fuckwits. Moving to the country in 3 weeks to a cottage. Theres alot I will miss about London but the proximity to other people - I hate it.
I wish our environmental health noise department was as reasonable as yours ClaraG, ours seems to let the real troublemakers get away with it while spending all the time on those they can pick on and intimidate. Our neighbour is really worried about the effect the council's attitude has on her mother while not doing a thing about the extended family in three houses near us who will spend the summer with the windows wide open and all sorts of "music" coming out - in the past have said they can't do much about it.
I do wonder if some councils are scared of dealing with the major offenders.
