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..ok I have two people who currently seem to think they have to wink at me one is one of my tutors
so whenever he catches my eye he winks..
so eg i arrive to clas tlater than everyone else he looks at me and winks
in the middle of the lesson i look up and he winks at me...i just think well ermm doesn't this look a bit weird
he has also done it in the refectory
what the f am i supposed to do back
and a guy at the gym is doing it now too for eg he is sat on an exercise bike behind me who is on the travelator thingy.. i get off look up and he winks theatricaaly
What is a 'wank princess look' zippi? Has it got something to do with f*ck-me shoes?
I got called 'sweetheart' by am aquaintance (I refuse to use the word 'friend') of DH's who is about 20 years younger than me. Being patronised is one thing, being patronised by a child is a step too far. I froze him with a look.
Winking is good I think. A Dad can do it to his daughter in a 'I'm proud of ou/well done' kind of way. A grown man only does it to a grown woman if he fancied her. imo.
We were talking about this at lunch at work today - our (mostly female) office is headed up by a (putatively female) individual, and she winks at all of us! It's a sort of pirate-style "ahhaarhh matey!" wink with head twist and all. What on earth are we supposed to do in response?
Just can't help it! I guess that makes me really sad..I will try really really hard to control myself in future..
I wink as in friendly, happy kind of way always accompanied by a smile...I don't expect any response but a smile back is always nice.
Im a 29yr old married lady with kids btw..I wink at old people and young people..male and female. Not all the time you understand (and def no head nodding involved!)
Its part of who I am...and I kind of like it so to you all!!
My best friend from school saw me in town the other day on his lunch hour - he winked a "hello" as he (clearly) had no time to stop to chat. I think he was just acknowledging that he saw me and wasn't ignoring me rather than meaning anything else.
I wished it did mean something different (from him) though !!
I'm sure some pop psychologist wuld say that when a man winks at a random woman he is tyring to flirt by assuming the "adult" role and wanting the woman to take the "child" role and, as a result, it is always yeuch
a colleague of mine used to do it and we all used to squirm about it.
The dad of another boy in DS1's class does it now to me whenever he sees me which is sightly worrying but he is German and maybe that makes a difference?!
I sometimes find I kind of do it at people by accident, if I'm smiling widely. Both men and women. It's hard to explain. I probably look deranged
It's slightly flirty but more conspiratorial I think. They probably just like you/like the look of you. The cut of your jib. Rather than desperately wanting to sleep with you.
Can't stand people who wink at me. Find it unnerving somehow. Women are worse.. used to work with a woman who winked all the time.. very odd. Somehow reminds me of old uncles when you were young winking at you.. never liked it then and still don't!
