Amen to all that!

Agree v. much with your last post Swedes - dh is also a hero, and just a kind, thoughtful and respectful person. Does make life very lovely, and makes me try to bite my tongue about very minor matters.

Ooh Swedes, I am going to cut and paste that bit into an email to Mr Justabout.

Swedes's DP is indeed the dogs' bollocks. I've seen him in action. Am very

LeninGrad It's a case of appreciating my DP's wonderfulness in almost everything other than cleaning and laundry. He is utterly fantastic with the children and spends much of his day for the common family good. It would be ridiculous of me to strop. It's about seeing your partner's good in all its glory and viewing the bad in its tiny and insignificant context. It's about respect really.

Was going to show DP this thread until this bit: "I think you should all default to the person with the higher standards. As living in a clean and orderly house saves masses of time and makes life much nicer." No chance now

But then intriguingly, you said this: "DP has disgustingly low standards. He washes up like a true toff, without hot water and without detergent."

So, how come this doesn't cause arguments? I'm not quite this bad but re-use water DP wouldn't. Bare minimum I'd get a tut or it would get surreptitiously re-done. Cue strops all round.

Justabout -

Ah, I should have married your DP. Would you like to come and clean my house? I'll happily take your children off your hands whilst I do it :-)

My idea of bliss would be for DP to take all four children off for a few days so I could thoroughly spring clean the whole house, from top to bottom. DP has disgustingly low standards. He washes up like a true toff, without hot water and without detergent.

Yes quite Swedes. And I am the one with no standards (weeps)