Hi Ladies 1000 posts, started a new thread here, hope it is ok....

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Thank you munchies hope some of that baby dust sticks to you

Sorry Mollie but you have given me hope! V excited for you xx

<Munchies dives into the babydust and rolls in it >

Seems like I'm being outed everywhere
Thanks Munchies I am chucking baby dust all over every single one of you
For those that don't know I got a BFP yesterday, only 5 wks after ERPC, still in shock, terrified, petrified and excited. But I really hope this gives you all hope.
I won't be going anywhere soon, if that's OK guys

Mollie OMG just saw your news on another thread!!! Congratulations!!!! I am so pleased for you xxxxxx

Can you throw a bagload of babydust our way please?

Cheers Mistlethrush, and thanks for the hugs. This particular WW meeting is always busy, and there's always queuing no matter when you get there (have tried both). Probably best would be to arrive as late as possible then skip out. Or find another meeting, but I hate to abandon this leader as she's been lovely. I may feel differently next Thursday, but right now not wanting to go back.

I haven't even had time to process the weight issue. I can't believe I only gained 1/2 a pound in those three weeks. After the MC, DP and I ate everything and anything we could get our hands on. Poor DP gained 2.5 lbs. He also gained while I was pregnant---we are saying he was the one who was pg, not me.

Going to finish cleaning the house today, go get some healthy groceries and get us back on the wagon today. I cooked a healthy dinner last night for the first time in a while, and it was lovely. Hopefully will not get in any fights at the supermarket

Sarah - don't feel bad, it happens. After my 1st mc I felt that absolutely everyone that I saw was pregnant or with a small baby, and I regularly had to restrain myself from making comments to complete strangers (eg when I saw someone pregnant and smoking).

When you talk to your leader, find out if it is possible to get there late or early and not have to have the major queuing situation. I have been to ww before and never had 'numbers' called - queued up to pay and then wait in turn - with a chair to wait beside so you didn't get to close to the scales etc.

I think that you've done really well only gaining 1/2lb - focus on that. It would be so easy to lose that and another by next week. Go along and hold your head high. Try to go when there are less children around - but, I'm afraid, its something that you just have to get used to (this is from someone that didn't flock out to the office entrance to see secretary's 3mo baby as I should have had one in my arms about the same age

Lots of hugs (I know its not a 'done' thing to do on mn, but sometimes its really needed!

Hi all, I've now progressed (or regressed) to OTT anger at random people.

Last night went to my first Weight Watchers meeting for a while (last one being when I weighed in and then told her I was pregnant). Feels like ages ago even though it was only 3 weeks. I phoned the leader beforehand to say I was coming back and she was lovely, and I'd been having a really good day, feeling all philosophical and patting myself on the back for handling everything really well. . . .

So I get there (with DP, he goes too), and the first thing we are confronted with is that the woman checking you in and handing out cards has her stupid baby sitting right next to her. I said, loudly enough I thought, that I hadn't been for a while, because I was pregnant, but am not anymore. She is apparently deaf, keeps looking for my card, then looks at me and says 'have you reached goal?' and I'm thinking 'no you stupid bint, I'm as big as a house, do I look like I've EVER reached goal?' so I said again, louder, 'I quit coming a few weeks back because I was pregnant, but now I'm not, so I am back'. She asked when was the last time you came, and I said again, I don't know, a few weeks ago. I finally had to dig out my own record card with the date on it and say it was three weeks ago. The leader saw me struggling, bless her, and ran over and whispered something in the woman's ear, then snatched my card away from her and kept it until I went up to be weighed (I presume she was removing the info about my being pregnant).

Along with the first baby, there were two other babies in the room, a pregnant lady who'd come with her friend, and about 4 other school age children. The room just felt really close and DP and I were both feeling really uncomfortable. The leader came over and said 'If I hug you, will you cry?' and I said 'yep, probably' so she said 'I'll leave it then'. She is lovely.

Normally the procedure is that you get a number when you check in, and then you are called in groups of 5 to get weighed (basically it keeps the queue moving and everyone doesn't have to queue for the entire time, rather like boarding groups at the airport). I've been going to this particular meeting for 5 months, and never before has this happened. She called 'numbers 10-15' so DP and I got up and stood in the queue, with one lady ahead of us. Suddenly this other woman pushes up and says 'I'm number 10' so I said 'it doesn't work that way' and she snottily said 'why do we have numbers then?' but went to the back of the queue. She kept staring at me, so I gave her a stare back and said VERY loudly that some people were quite rude and didn't understand how things worked and someone should explain it to them. But I was nearly in tears and just wanted to get out of there. Plus very angry and repeated what I'd said to the leader, saying I didn't need this right now, that I hadn't done anything wrong. Leader gave me a little plant she'd bought me and said I'd only gained 1/2 a pound since three weeks ago, but I could barely thank her because I was just seething with rage and embarassment. I think a few tears might have escaped while I was queuing to pay. There was one lady between DP and I, and she said, 'are you together, do you want to go ahead?' and I said 'No, I don't try to push ahead like some people'.

I don't know what happened, I was really okay until I went in there, and I think all those fecking babies and kids just threw me so much....then it's topped off by a really bitchy woman who I could see was talking about me to the other people in the queue as though I was wrong--when I KNEW I wasn't. At least I didn't get into a fistfight, because I really felt like hitting her. I don't know if I can go back there, at least not for a while. I am clearly not ready to be herded into a little room and forced to looked at babies while I wait for someone to tell me how fat I am.

I am going to have to call the leader today and apologise as I did make a bit of a scene, and I barely thanked her for the plant. I think I will tell her I can't come back for a while--I don't know what else to do.

I felt so good yesterday, but today having trouble not crying, and going over and over yesterday in my mind.

Evening all, not posting much but still reading - I'm really sympathising with those that have to regularly put up with insensitive friends / relatives etc.

I had to go to overseas on a business trip this week and endure a co-worker going on and on about when it would be time for me to have my next baby, culminating in bets being placed on which month it would be. I think it was easier to distance myself from it all because they are only work colleagues that I've only met once before and because of the language not flowing so smoothly. All in all I was very proud of myself.

I'm still waiting for AF to appear, although I think she might be on her way, but who knows - only time will tell I guess.

I've really used this time to back off from the whole ttc thing and just focus on DS and DH, its definitely brought us all closer together - and we were quite tight to start off with.

And most excitingly, we've booked a holiday! I'm going away in October for a week in a sunny villa for the first time since DS was born and can't wait

Also, I made a donation to the Miscarriage Association, not huge, but big enough and got a letter back from a different company thanking me for my donation. At first I was worried my card details had been nicked but then realised that the same 'agency' that deals with fund collecting dealt with both charities - fortunately just an admin error and the money had gone to the right place. I think I would have been too embarassed to ask for it back from a charity but wanted the MA to have it too...very difficult, but all OK in the end.

Hello, sorry I haven't been around for a while, went away for our wedding anniversary, just a short break but it was lovely, feel very relaxed and chilled out
Sarah So sorry to hear about all the other crap you are having to deal with as well as your loss, how are you feeling now hun? YOur SIL sounds lovely, very deserving of an easy pregnancy (not)
Maz Have you made any decision about TTC yet? We decided after the first one to try straight away, like you said it's personal choice, if you feel like it then it's probably right for you - go for it girl
Sadminster What an insensitive friend you have some people are so thoughtless aren't they? Did you test after or as AF arrived? At least you have some referrals through, have you long to wait?
Munchies & Mistle How are you both doing?
Hi to everyone else, not much to report, although did have a wobbly moment on holiday, we were sat in a pub next to a couple with a cute 3yr old girl and a newbie little boy, the girl didn't upset me at all, but the little boy must only have been a few months, and was so darn cute, I just started welling up (blush) very embarassing in the middle of a pub, I just kept thinking that I should have a 4 wk old baby or be 16 weeks pg and how unfair life is But still onwards and upwards, just waiting for first AF to arrive.