I've just been on this thread:
here where a first-time-mum-to-be is worried because her DH wants her to have an elective caesarean so as to avoid postnatal fanjo flapping and ensure they continue to have a rich sex life.

Yes, I know.

So can you help her out by saying what state your fanjo's in now? Hopefully this highly scientific straw poll will prove this man wrong!

I'll start: tighter.

She would slash her wrists if she knew the state of mine

Same as ever

Honestly, no difference. Though I'll be interested to see if there's an 'average' result for this.

There's a limit to what i would discuss online and i reckon it's about right here.

Dp says he aint bothered just as long as he gets some

Same as ever. It's designed to push babies through - it's not like it turns into a wind sock

fifth one walked out

No wizard's sleeves here!

it's only a problem if your husband is small of willy .

Er, mine's turned into a wind sock...

Snap, Expat, my feelings exactly.

Fanjo took a while to spring back, but it got there eventually. It maybe looks a bit different, but feels the same.

My dh is happy just to get some (am still a bit sore from birth) but reports that it feels the same.

at windsocks though

No difference in tightness after 2 vaginal births.

It's a bit tattier, to be honest but if anything I've found sex better.....

back to normal in about 6-8 weeks for me. I'd been doing pelvic floor exercises for quite a long time before the birth and carried on with them afterwards. (had natural birth and ended up with 2nd degree tear).

And keep in mind, that, even if you had no children at all, your vagina and vulva change with age.

There's no stopping that!

Things get less elastic due to hormone levels falling off.

oh dear, honestly grr

bloke at my old work took me out for a drink when his wife got pregnant and blardy well asked me all about this as he said he was hoping she would have a c-section for that exact reason <rolls eyes>

I told him if the only thing he was worried about when his wife was pregnant with their first child was whether his willy would touch sides afterwards, then he had a lot to learn. And the fact that there seemed to be a fair few people in the world who had more than one child PROBABLY meant that sex after childbirth still happened even if might not be exactly the same.

can a fanjo really become tighter after giving birth?

no noticeable difference in mine-and i had an episiotomy. it healed well. bit sad that her dh is so worried

my fanjos the least of my worries.

you should see the state of my tits

pitta breads flapping around

Mine about the same after vb (on drip, so fast labour with internal tear). Feels a bit different though...

pretty much the same I'd say.

My friend performed a smear test on a very well preserved 16 61 lady the other day and said she looked good on the outside, but the inside was collapsing!.

Must be an age thing!

tbh, I do this bloke a disservice because he was actually quite a nice guy

I think SOME blokes are so farking clueless about the female anatomy that they actually have no clue what happens in childbirth or after childbirth etc. and need a bit of re-educating.

Perhaps you could draw him a picture.

I'd say it's probably about the same. My pelvic floor is very strong. After 3 vaginal births I could still clamp the muscles down tight enough to stop DH getting out.

I'm currently 39 weeks pregnant with DC4 and can sneeze without wetting myself - I even ran up the steps at school today. And I'm nearly 39 years old.

But neither DH or I would have cared less about a bit of enlargement. And recovery takes quite a long time for most women, regardless of how they gave birth.

Tighter than a frog's fundament.

Ohhh, foxy! You made me howl! You poor love. Mine are like filled pittas. Saw a fab set of booswams on Gok's show this week - huge jealousy pangs, I can tell you.

pmsl about frogs and babies walking out!

shit, I thought you were talking to me and I was wondering where I had been so indiscreet as to reveal the state of my breasts!

hahahaha! I can't stop laughing, fox and foxy!

what's with the fox imposter?

the other fox has been around a while (I've been here longer though ). We hardly ever appear on the same threads strangely.

I can't really talk. Took me ages to stop confusing you p's and now you and policy are hardly ever on the same threads.

yes, I think wonk can usually be found on the more intellectually stimulating threads

how queer

perhaps she felt safe on our inane threads at first

now she's left us for the big girls

Tighter, DS, second child came down so fast I tore back to front and internally,think DH bunged the Doc £50 when in theatre being repaired !!

After 3 kids and stitches after all 3 I have been left with a bucket fanjo and a tight arse hole (no not dp) so sex isn't as good and pooing is less of a pleasure also.

PMSL Ledodgy

Not sure there is much change really. My new DP has never been out with anyone with children before, and he doesn't seem to have many complaints!

oh I don know, I don know. I'm trying to put mysekf down, not wonks!

I would start a thread and call her and we could reminisce but I think she's gone

gone? That sounds a bit final

oh no, I meant left for the evening. She was in prime intellectual mode on the vipers thread.

ledodgy - you only gave birth five minutes ago so I don't think you're allowed to assume that you have a bucket for life.

Dh says tighter.

Wouldn't care, though. Ds' birth was the most amazing thing we have ever experienced, and would be worth most things it could do to my fanjo.

Norks I'm afraid I think this bucket is for life and not just for Christmas.

aw, foxy and pointy

I feel warm and fuzzy now

that's about as warm and fuzzy as we get

i'm feeling the love!

pull up those pelvic floors, ladies.

pull, pull, pull!

i think a bit flappier than before, my dh says not tho which is nice but probably not true. my little sister had extensive stiching after her 1st ds and says its liks being a virgin again

The same, - but somehow sex feels better for both of us!!

As tight as a shrunken cashmere polo neck here.

Like a clown's pocket. And I don't care.

Mine feels the same to me, but my DH actually thinks its better. Just do lots of pelvic floor excersies after the birth (and before)

pmsl greensleeves

mine the same too. However would like to add my stomach is a complete mess after my section 6 yrs ago still numb in places and very digusting overhang that wont go, that probably has done more damage to my sex life, however my vb 4 yrs ago not affected it

looser but in a good way, was so tight before that sex used to be painful alot of the time and was difficult to get dp (or previous partners) into my fanjo on occasions. can have sex in lots of new positions now

dp says he hasn't noticed any negative effects, apparently he was bracing himself for the worst and was pleasently surprised

Much tighter, had two Episiostomies and they did a v good job

Definitely slacker, but not so much due to 8lb12 oz first child as to the weight gain since the third one I suspect- I think I am generally less toned down there now.

dp says he can't notice the difference
god he is a total philistine

I have a lot of internal scarring from a section, which makes sex really painful. Have had it 3 times since the birth 4 years ago... ouch.

Hope the poster with the ignorant DH is reading this.

3rd degree tear.

very lazy on the pelvic floor front.

dh claims no difference.

he may be lying. I doubt it.

or has massive attributes. ahem.

or maybe he's just a man with a big, erm, heart, Franny .

I think it's probably looser but dh says
he can't remember
but it's not about the size it's what you do with it....
Haven't I heard that somewhere before.....

sorry snorting with laughter now...
dh says
if it's that big you can always move onto the arse


ignore me...
I'm pissed

ingles stop snorting and inform your other half that he is a revolting beast

I'm still snorting...
but I agree he is revolting.
luckily it's just in is head

in his head... but that's even filthier <explodes in paroxysms of prim bosom-plumpiness>

Hmm - well put it this way...

I need a moonbucket not a mooncup.

Ha Ha Ha.. Moonbuckets...

I wrote about me bits on the other thread.....but when I got my mooncup I discreetly chose the Over 30 and have given birth vaginally large size only for the man in the shop to ask out loud whether I got the right size A under 30 and no vaginal birth or B over 30 and had a vaginal birth because I wouldn't be able to take it back!!!! [would blush but felt that man was well intentioned so didn't really care]

Just had mine redesigned and is now akin to one of a 17 year old apparently!

same as it was though ds was only 5lbs 3oz