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my lady is 41 wks, in labour as we speak and not making fab progress as far as she thinks.
called 6am this morn, saying had been niggling all night, went from 20 mins to 10 mins, now at 7 mins, Brill, me thinks, text book.
Kept in contact throughout day, her calling me, she's had bath, paracetamol, doing lots moving, . Bath stalled it a bit, went down to 10 mins, 12 mins, She is now using her tens, it was on 4 this morning, is now on no. 6. Says cx are painful, and can't talk through them. Took tens off for a while to see if it made a difference, lasted one cx!! Yes it is making a difference, she says.
Her husband is there with her, and her young son will be there from 6pm, as will be the person looking after him.
She is feeling like she needs loo constantly but not weeing much, lots pressure.
Have suggested snuggling up with hubby, holding hands during cx and looking silently (him not neccesarily her) into his eyes during cx, as he is asking lots questions during cx, as to how he can help. Though this would kind of reinforce her need to be silent during them, as she as told me she would like.
We are in phone contact, I am half hour away at most. On our last conversation at 3 she said, I want some gas and air. I said, don't leave it till you are desperate to get further pain relief if you think you need some.
Now what, have said call whenever, obviously. Last labour was a stop start 3 day affair with failed epidural. Sooo doesn't want the same again.
Also keep mobile, keep walking around, the more gravity pushes the baby down the better, but I'm just someone who thrives on labour threads, wait for the real thing by all means
yeah baby slightly op at monday check up. She'd not hb but wants to stay at home as long as poss. Hosp is literally 5 mins away.
Don't wanna intrude and obviously i have done a fab job, [prenes self] and stilling her fears from last time given that i only met them 3 weeks ago, I've worked hard getting to know them, and going over all the last labour and this one too. What i mean is, is it possible for her to be over confident now and miss her hospital window?
i think it would be worthwhile to say you can come over and if she does not want people wth her or touching her, you can be near her,. and can keep her DH from irritating her
is anything holding her back> any unresolved issues or fears?
perhaps you could speak to her, say you will go over, it will take you a bit to get there, and when you arrive , can encourage Dad to sort out the toddler. what is the plan for him when they go to hospitl?
half 6 is a long time and anything could happen !!
if she is finding her son is stopping her from adpoting the positions she needs to it might be better for you to go earlier and make this a bit more 'real' ? IFYSWIM
keep us posted if you can
NJ, it was jolly good fun and brought us brief fame/ notoriety!
she sounded distracted this time on the phone so i'm sure all is progressing nicely. I did tell her to look at the intensity and length of ctx as opposed to how far apart aswell
but if she can have a coherent conversation then she is not at the losing control stage ! i would be tempted to go sooner rather than later.. just to be there. but that is me !
I am not trying for #7 anymore, changed my mind. DH is away for 9 months next year and the baby would be due when he is away. I am on hold for a while.
yes tis me lulu. from my exp. when a miserable old midwife told me there was no way i could use the pool again second time, i began to panic and felt i was losing control, that's all. I thought maybe trying to hold her off if she really wants it may result in a similar reaction?
Deffo. needs the small one removed if his presence is not allowing her to do what feels natural. bless him!
Get to m's house 6.10pm, to find her laughing and joking with friend in bedroom, has the ctx timer on laptop, friend is working it. Looks flushed but euphoric.
Ctx are all over the place time wise, history that i can see is 7mins, 4 mins, 3 mins, 2 mins, 6 mins, etc, very strong and lasting up to a min regularly. During ctx, M is being quite guttural and last one a bit pushy, so i suggest calling hosp. Call hosp,M says she wants some g&a so we get ready to leave.
In between ctx, you wouldn't know M was in labour. I on the other hand am thinking baby is gonna arrive in the car at this point. Try to hurry everyone along, without causing undue alarm.
Get in car, M says she keeps wetting herself, I suggest waters have broken, M didn't think so.
T, bless him, makes wrong turn out of their street, (they really do only live about 5 streets away from hosp!!) this is really funny, M is laughing. Now back on track. M hanging onto open sunroof, shouts, it's burning, i'm pushing. No, breathe lonnnngggg, i coach.
Entrance to hosp, M thinks she's pood, (sorry, tmi)Am thinking, great, baby is in birth canal, I know if M stands up for long, this child is gonna be born in the car park. I give specific instructions for them not to get out of car, and sprint into entrance looking for a wheelchair. one chained up, i ask security guard if i can have it, he thinks about it, [haVEN'T GOT TIME TO STAND ABOUT THINKING EMOTICON!!!]
I dunno, he says it's for the old people. I tell him, (firmly), my very pregnany lady is sitting in her car, pushing, I need the chair.
Gets chair.[smug]
Get M into chair, I am 5ft 5, and M is a big lady, and about to give birth. T takes car to park, I push as fast as i can, round a hospital i have never visited before, to delivery.
Get into room, amid much bumping into doorways, with unmanouverable bloody chair that does not have swivel wheels!!!! This is slightly farcial at this point.
Manage to get M out of chair, but she doesn't make it onto bed, is leaning over bed on the floor,m yelling for pain relief, 1st mw trying to manouver (sp) under her legs to see what is what, manage to get trousers off, 2nd mw suddenly realises and offers M g&a, almost gets her arm ripped off as M grabs mouthpiece. I am leaning across bed, trying to keep M calm, and reasurring her that she is about to meet her baby, and WHERE THE BLOODY HELL IS t!!!!!(the latter to self)
T walks into room, just in time to see baby L breathed into the world with a couple of wiffs of g&a.
FANTASTIC
What a result, they had a really traumatic time with no.1 , and so wanted natural birth with little intervention, well, safely say, they achieved that. lol
Waters had indeed, gone earlier, and took a bit of time to get some membranes left behind, mw were very hands off though, no rush, no pressure to have synto and vit, K. Baby was so calm, and peaceful. She has a little tongue tie, but my last client had this too so am up to date. Fed beautifully on both sides,Mum was up and bathed and i was home by midnight.
I am sooo pleased for them, lovely couple.
Thanks for your halp ladies, don't you just love a happy ending.
incidentally, 2nd mw, when introduced to me as the doula, said, "that's nice" some people are funny aren't they?
aww that's brilliant! Sometimes you just KNOW it's going to happen quickly don't you? Thank God you went over when you did as it sounds like she'd never have left for the hospital! She can have the next one at home
she'll have to have the next one at home, we need an online commentary welcome to the new baby ! glad she got the intervention free birth she wanted . lovely
Thats fab - I've never really read one of the labour posts before, will make sure I do in future - brought back so many happy memories (though of course at the time I wasn;t happy!).
absolutely butterfly. Since training to become a doula, i have realised just how much difference could have been made to my own experiences. Obviously that is not the only reason we are ttc no. 6
Incidentally dh will not be attending next birth, by our mutual choice, so just mumsnet and my doula then. We have just done an article for next months Practical Parenting about fathers at the birth, and dh hopes he's not gonna get slated for not attending.
ahh, suddenly question becomes clear. When are you due?
I can't wait, don't think my bfp will be any time soon as no periods, still bf one year old. (yeah yeah I know not completely but stands true for us, still bf, no pg)
LDC is at the ready though 
LOL 
of you.
